Jacob Holmes needs others in order to structure himself. He intuitively senses this need and seeks a balance between his individual ambitions and need to give to others and be loved and recognized in return, although it sometimes eludes him. Marriage and friendship could be realms to which he is especially devoted, but they may also prove to be a source of conflict and disillusion.
Jacob Holmes has a profound and fertile inner life and a prolific imagination, but his energy resources are not always sufficient to follow through on and accomplish his multitude of dreams. He tends to live in osmosis with his environment, and effort and action take a heavy toll on him. Usually, he understands phenomena and events intuitively, without really making any effort; so he is not in the habit of disciplining or shaping his thought processes. Like his thoughts, his personality is rather amorphous and disorganized. As a result of this lack of structure, he may have some trouble asserting his individuality and making some personal contribution to society through his career. His tendency to shut out reality and dream impossible dreams, like his refusal of responsibility and duty, may be a source of some difficulty for him.
Jacob Holmes is winning and attractive. He has an appetite for intense emotional experiences, especially in terms of his relationships. Enjoying the power of his personal appeal, he easily controls his emotions and only rarely reveals the true depth of his feelings. Because his instincts take precedence over his sensitivity, he is capable of becoming jealous, possessive, and even rather harsh, without meaning to. More of a flirt than a voluptuary, he is attentive to desire. As a result, his love life will sometimes be casual and complicated.
Jacob Holmes has a sensitive personality. He may jump to conclusions, which could disrupt relationships, as well as career plans. He is subject to cyclical energy flows and goes from periods of feverish activity to periods of withdrawal and introspection. The aggressive element in his behavior may be explained by emotional problems he may have experienced in infancy: his mother, or a mother figure, may have had an energetic and volatile personality.
Although your demeanor is cool and distant, you are extremely sensitive. In some cases, your rather austere and rigid behavior and your refusal to yield too readily to sentimentality discourage others from being too demonstrative of their tenderness and affection. You have spells of melancholy in which you do not feel worthy of being loved and tend to forbid yourself emotional fulfillment. An austere or somewhat traumatic childhood experience may be the source of this behavior. You may have suffered rejection in your infancy, and, as a result, lacked the parental love which is essential to the cohesion of a personality and identity. In order to feel secure, and to protect yourself from ever suffering rejection or abandonment again, you withdrew into yourself and developed your aloofness as a defense mechanism. When you finally let down your defenses and allow yourself to express your feelings, you tend to become impassioned and exalted. You are fairly introverted and egocentric and have a powerful sense of your own identity.
Jacob Holmes has an appetite for intense emotional thrills, especially in his relationships. Feelings of insecurity may keep him from expressing his emotions, and he tends at times to become jealous or possessive of the person he loves. The force of his emotional drives is intense and especially evident when he has been wounded in some way in the course of a love affair, or if he feels as though someone, a friend or lover, has betrayed him. He has a tendency to be masochistic and thrive on suffering. He may abandon himself to his emotional fears and trifle with his inner vulnerability.
Jacob Holmes is sexuality is an important part of his life, and his relationships are most often determined by his instincts. If he has a relationship that is exclusively satisfying sexually, however, he might feel frustration, because he is driven by a kind of unconscious guilt to seek fulfillment for his heart and soul as well. He tends to be a rather excessive and tormented partner, who often re-evaluates the bonds that connect him to his partners.
Jacob Holmes is fairly shy, reserved, and discreet when it comes to matters of the heart. Even in intimate moments, he remains modest and does not always readily express his feelings. He is sensitive and giving, wishing to be of service to those he loves. He would do well to trust that he deserves to be made as happy as he makes his partners.
Jacob Holmes’ birth chart indicates a somewhat introverted emotional function which is influenced by the cultural values traditional to his family and social class. Because he does not always trust his emotional urges and reactions, he generally prefers to hang back and acquire some perspective before committing himself emotionally.
Jacob Holmes seeks few intimate emotional relationships or contacts. As a result, he tends to stay in the background and fulfill his emotional needs by sublimating. He might not attain full romantic satisfaction until he reaches middle age.
Jacob Holmes seems more apt to become accomplished than to live out emotional happiness. He is very ambitious and liable to sacrifice a pleasant lover to a socially useful and prominent person. In this case, his partner may turn out to be more preoccupied with their own glory than with Jacob. At that point, Jacob may work out his frustrations and emotional misadventures by surpassing their success with his own.
Jacob Holmes falls in love with a person who is not in tune with his sensual and romantic wavelength. He is intellectually refined, practical, and realistic, more absorbed by the problems of daily life than be great sentimental adventures.
You are an ardent and amorous person, and your relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, you are often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, your love life may be subject to some instability. You are generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate you. Your greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although you merge your ego entirely into the couple, you are likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If your partner charms and captivates you long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with you; otherwise, you are likely to yield to your need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for you.
Midlife may be a turning point for you from this point of view. Your contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. Your behavior enables you to remain aloof, to commit yourself only halfway without consciously admitting it to yourself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when you lose interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps you from forming stable relationships. Indeed, you are tormented by the struggle between your undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, your romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by your conviction that your partner has become an obstacle to your individual progress. Because you think of love as a restraint, you may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, you will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, you are also likely to meet “the one” who inspires you to initiate a change in your behavior.
Jacob Holmes has a fairly skeptical temperament which relies on remarkable analytic and critical faculties. He is sensitive and curious, a keen observer of facts who collects detailed information. He is later poring over and analyzing this type of logical, rational mind. However, it sometimes lacks flexibility or broad-mindedness.
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