Consciousness and The Ideal of Self:

Hayes Grier is patient. Hayes Grier is fond of routine, ritual, and any other events or ceremonies which mark the passage of time and the seasons. Hayes Grier tries to be as pragmatic as possible and unconsciously senses that Hayes Grier’s relationship with material things will be the best foundation for Hayes Grier’s self-development and individuation. As a result, Hayes Grier is attached to Hayes Grier’s possessions and will make every effort to cling to them.

Your personality and behavior are liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling your psyche. Because Hayes’ sensitivity is in conflict with their determination, their attitude and performance may be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, Hayes has the feeling they have to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging their yearnings and fulfilling their ambitions. Hayes’ unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of their conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage their plans. In their relationships, the images Hayes build up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, also grates on Hayes’ nerves. They find it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.

Hayes Grier is affectionate by nature, and love plays a decisive and central role in his life. He is a charmer who needs to love and be loved. Aware of his personal magnetism and the power it gives him, he will make subtle changes in himself in order to attract positive attention. He is sophisticated and pleased to savor a lifestyle he sees as a consummate art.

You may be subject to mood swings, going from phases of frenzy combined with a feeling of omnipotence and exaltation to phases of apathy and inertia. During your “highs,” your behavior is vigorous and dynamic, but it is also likely to be somewhat excessive. These periods tend to be interspersed with “lows,” phases of sluggishness and inhibition, which compensate for your immense need to assert yourself as an individual. How can Hayes Grier find a way out of this vicious cycle which uses up so much of his energy? He would have to understand that the source of his attitudes and behavior is an unconscious desire for power. We suggest that Hayes Grier meditate upon power, skills, mastery, challenge, desire, and need, his brothers (or brother substitutes, such as friends, cousins, or classmates) – who are key figures – and his adversaries. This should enlighten him. Of course, once Hayes Grier has a clear awareness of his career ambitions and profound desires, he is sure to have plenty of energy to accomplish them.

Hayes Grier enjoys sharing and has a constant need for contact with other people. Hayes Grier tends to be free and uninhibited in his relations with other people, rarely allowing himself to be influenced by convention or prevailing opinion; Hayes Grier associates with whomever he pleases. This attitude makes Hayes Grier’s life refreshing and exciting, and Hayes Grier is never bored. In career terms, Hayes Grier is quite gifted for any field related to communication, where his intellectual singularity and lively wit would make him an amazing hit. Hayes Grier would also be likely to succeed in any activity where the work required a multidisciplinary approach: teaching, advertising, politics, etc.

Hayes Grier has an inalienable awareness of the void and the vanity of existence. He is sometimes disoriented and deconstructed by an unknowable, unconscious force and tends to ignore or disparage the superficial pleasures and pains of daily life, preferring to dive into the depths of human experience as deeply as his intellectual, emotional, and spiritual capacities permit. Grappling with his “fundamental nature,” with the deepest and most primitive part of himself, he is sometimes aghast at the discovery of the sheer power of his instincts and feels an imperious need to cope with them. This special consciousness he has been endowed with is somewhat beyond the bounds of conventional schools of human understanding and thought and may be a source of identity problems for him at the outset. It is not easy for him to recognize himself in any social or narcissistic models, or identify with any existing roles or attitudes, so he sometimes finds himself forced to assert and express his own identity in a way which may strike his contemporaries as strangely intense if not eccentric.

Adaptation and Sensitivity:

Because Hayes is fond of method and order, he usually prefers to do things according to a pre-established plan. His behavior mirrors this tendency. He will adopt relatively strict models elaborated on the basis of logical or moral reasons. He does not readily express his personal feelings or emotions and may sometimes strike others as a rigid person. However, his conscientiousness and application make him thrive in a work environment, and he tends to treat social engagements and activities as a form of duty. His natural taste for clarity, detail, and technique would make him successful as a scientific researcher or high-tech designer.

Hayes Grier maintains strong ties with his past, and it often seems difficult for him to open his heart to new people. His love affairs might exist on the surface level, because his lust and sensual desire rarely turn into a need to understand, protect, and care for the other. Moreover, it is difficult for him to meet partners who combine the ideals of the tender parent and the great lover.

Hayes Grier hides and protects his sensitivity behind a fairly cool, aloof exterior. He is fairly conservative, respectful of tradition and convention, and likes to follow the rules. Because he needs stability to alleviate his feelings of frustration and sometimes emotional dependency, he has great faith in contracts which seal relationships. His ties to his past are fairly strong. They are a source of reassurance and safety, because his parents likely gave a lot to him.

Hayes’ sensitivity and emotions are sometimes in conflict with his instincts. This inner discord makes him a fairly complicated relationship partner, and his behavior sometimes strikes others as mysterious or baffling. He is liable to switch from one attitude to the opposite. Sexuality is an important part of his life, and his relationships are most often motivated by his desires. Nevertheless, due to his unconscious inner battle, he does not often succeed in reconciling and fulfilling his emotional and sexual needs. Due to the strength of his instincts, passion may overwhelm him and drag him into situations he cannot always control, which intermingle erotic ecstasy and anguish, guilt, and aggressiveness.

Love and Sensuality:

Hayes Grier enjoys captivating people with the elegance and ease of his expression. He is a witty and engaging flirt, an avid player of the game of love. As a result, the history of his affections is liable to be episodic, a long series of chapters about conquests or fleeting love affairs. He may carry on some love relationships by writing letters.

Hayes Grier’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of his emotional urges and somewhat wary of his feelings, he tries to rid himself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.

As a result of this conflict between the conscious, active, masculine principle of Hayes Grier’s psyche and the unconscious, passive, feminine principle, Hayes Grier is continually subject to nervous tension, which wears Hayes Grier out and exhausts Hayes Grier. Hayes Grier’s mind and body are always feverishly active. Hayes Grier always tends to do too much, to become obsessed with insignificant details, or to panic when faced with the unexpected. Hayes Grier is likely to marry a partner younger than Hayes Grier is, either chronologically or in terms of their sense of duty. But perhaps Hayes Grier’s second marriage will be more reasonable and satisfying.

Because Hayes Grier has an intellectual temperament, he is sometimes more interested in verbal or social exchanges than in actual lovemaking. He enjoys flirting and tends to have fun with love rather than become passionately engaged. Because he avoids intense passion, he tends to flutter from one good-looking face to the next, enjoying his ability to charm. He believes that played this way, the game of love can have few serious consequences.

Hayes Grier has the fiery, importunate nature of a fervent lover. Indeed, affairs of the heart are one of his main purposes in life. His personal charm and magnetism give him nearly irresistible powers of seduction, and nearly every one of his well-aimed attempts at conquest leads to the fulfillment and satisfaction of his desires. Due to his impulsiveness and impatience to initiate new encounters, his approach to members of the other sex may sometimes lack delicacy.

Hayes Grier has an ardent and amorous character, and their relationships with the other sex are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, they are often more in love with the idea of love than with their partners. As a result, their love life may be subject to some instability. They are generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate them. Love is often a matter of luck with them. Even when a relationship falls apart, they do not see the experience as a failure or a tragedy; instead, they seem to learn valuable lessons from their mistakes. Psychologically, their emotion contributes positively and efficiently to their evolution. From another standpoint, their acute sensitivity predisposes them to original and subtle tastes; they are so receptive to beauty and attached to the concepts of truth and balance that they may all combine to yield remarkable creative potential.

Mental and Intellect:

Hayes Grier’s intellect, which is simultaneously subjective and sensitive, acute and intuitive, always practical and deeply rooted in human experience, predisposes him to a people-oriented activity. With his memory and imagination combined with his shrewdness, he would be a gifted project manager, businesswoman, or scholar of history or literature.

Hayes Grier tries to shun subjectivity and be as objective as possible. His thoughts are usually structured, and his reasoning, based on objective facts or experience, usually relates to practical goals.