Dojna Mema, if you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. Your coolness and distance, your lack of consideration for others, your rigidity, your need for total control, and your fear of your emotions are all potential inhibitors to your growth. If you want to become the best you can be, you need to start by looking at the areas in your life where you need to make some changes.