If you want to improve your life, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These could be your excessive independence, your fear of commitment, your eccentricity, your instability, or your fear of intimacy.
Allison Holker may find herself feeling frustration and insecurity in her relations with other people, or in matters related to communication, until she finds the right direction for herself. She is fairly skeptical and sometimes overly rational, so she does not always trust in the power of her own imagination and emotions, and she is even more wary of other people’s imagination and emotions. Her approach is sometimes hindered by pessimism, and people may find her cynical. She would do well to learn to be more generous with herself in her intimate and social relationships instead of immediately snuffing out other people’s spontaneous expressions of hope and goodwill.
Allison Holker has developed a fairly radical philosophy which challenges traditional systems of knowledge. In fact, many people shun her as an eccentric trying to spread subversive ideas. She is fairly nervous and impatient and finds it difficult to concentrate on one subject for very long. As a result, she does not always take the time to express her ideas in a practical or tangible way. She is fascinated by novelty and is likely to find the field of communications most rewarding for the total freedom it gives to her need for expression and her innovative, revolutionary spirit. Gradually, as she learns to control her intellectual and nervous energies, she will be able to express her innovative ideas about traditional structures and lifestyles in a more effective way. Her ability to channel her energies and lead groups of followers into unexplored ideological territory will improve.
You must learn to say no to others in order to say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.