If James Harden really wants to improve and transform himself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution:
– James Harden’s perfectionism
– James Harden’s tendency to hyperfocus on minutiae
– James Harden’s over intellectualization
– James Harden’s comfort with a constant state of worry

James Harden tends to lure others to him and gain their love and approval. As a lover, he might be the impetuous type who rushes into a relationship without thinking, making a great show of affection at the outset. He could learn to evaluate the pros and cons of an emotional commitment more carefully if he wants to avoid leaving a trail of broken hearts.

James Harden’s mental processes are lightning quick. As a result, he tends to jump to conclusions and make immediate decisions before he knows all the facts. This rash and impetuous behavior could cause communications problems and arouse needless opposition in others. His mind is generally too busy with the immediate future to take time for careful analysis and reflection. He would do well to slow down and organize himself before he speaks. However, the same behavior has a positive side. It can be of great use to him in rushed or quickly changing work situations, which require last-minute, immediate decisions.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing James Harden must do is learn to say no. Once he is capable of saying no to others, he can say yes to life. James Harden must develop his awareness of all the things he loves and feel positive about, as well as all the changes he hopes to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support him, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of his personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when he was helpless may be obstacles to his evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent him from daring to confront challenges he would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons James Harden yields to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to him that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of his identity. However, the more often he reinforces this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware he becomes of his true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced his pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for James Harden to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside him that claims he doesn’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of James Harden could undermine his vitality and force him to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, he limits his power to bring about a positive change in himself or his life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free himself, the first step is to free himself from the fears which prevent him from taking full advantage of life. James Harden can succeed if he arranges a relaxed, positive environment for himself, establishes sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which he can practice relaxation exercises.