If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. Bouba Savage knows that dependency on other people is a major weakness which can prevent your evolution. She knows that uncertainty can hold you back and keep you from reaching your goals. She knows that sentimentalism can keep you from moving on after a difficult experience. And she knows that weakness for comfort can keep you from pushing yourself.

You must learn to say no to others in order to say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the good things in life, as well as all the changes you hope to make to enjoy them more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of your transformation. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution, but you can overcome them by freeing yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you establish a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.