If you want to improve your life, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These could be things like your coolness and distance, your lack of consideration for others, your rigidity, your need for total control, or your fear of your emotions.

You sometimes sense a conflict between your desires for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are deeply committed to both ideas and do not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on you. Sometimes it feels as though you will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy you if you have neglected your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you are only trying to fool yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Arlyn Phoenix might set unrealistic goals for herself and struggle with organization. These tendencies are particularly evident when it comes to her emotional relationships. In the beginning, she will idealize the potential partner, putting them on a pedestal, but then she will try to dodge her commitment and desperately plot to extricate herself. In other life pursuits, she tends to rush into activities, of which she might only have a crude, confused concept. Life could step in to urge her to slow down and induce her to organize herself with more patience and forethought.