The first step to becoming a better person is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These might include your dependency on other people, your uncertainty, your sentimentalism, and your weakness for comfort.

Although you are friendly and outgoing, you often find it difficult to balance your own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To overcome this problem, you should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If you succeed in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship you and your partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.