Victoria de Angelis experiences her inner life as a process of growth and maturation, nurtured by her involvement with others and the positive and negative encounters this generates.
Because Victoria de Angelis is a social being oriented toward other people, her personal interests often mingle with those of her associates or those of the group to which she belongs. She is motivated by a need to work in common with other people and to share life’s pleasures and pain. Her commitments to other people are of paramount importance to her personal development. This dependence may present difficulties with individual self-assertion and make it hard for her to make decisions alone. If she wants to achieve inner equilibrium, she must behave in such a way that her actions yield benefits to others as well as herself.
Victoria de Angelis demonstrates great interest in the outside world, social affairs, and anything else that contributes to the growth and development of society as a whole. Clubs, organizations, and other forms of partnership attract her attention and motivate her behavior. She tries to protect herself from her subjectivity by adopting an impersonal approach to life. Devoted to the common cause, her destiny is no longer hers alone. It is almost entirely controlled by the people whose cause she has espoused.
Victoria de Angelis has a tendency to identify with others. She forms friendships easily and naturally and enjoys participating in other people’s lives. Sociable, she enjoys being seen and appreciates popularity and recognition. Solitude bores her. Her life and personal relations are in sync with her friendships and outer events. Most often, she shares the opinion of others.
Victoria de Angelis works harder than others to understand other people’s feelings. But this seeming lack of empathy and compassion for others simply mirrors her own difficulty in understanding her own feelings and emotional needs. She is not insensitive, but she is baffled by her own emotions. She sees the emotional world as a foreign terrain, perhaps fraught with hidden dangers. Becoming familiar with it would present more drawbacks than advantages. As a result, she may appear to be hard or aloof.
She might struggle to establish a rewarding relationship, as she seeks special individuals to bond with. If she were able to accept and understand her own emotions, she would have an easier time grappling with other people’s feelings.
She has a strong desire for emotional independence, and might have trouble seeing other people’s emotional needs. She might even be the first to deny that such needs are real.
As a result, her dependency on others is unconscious. Because it is seen as such a threat, it is repressed. Actually, although she offers conscious resistance to anyone who tries to lure her out of her emotional bubble, she is always making timid, half-conscious forays into the world of feelings, because her loneliness and fear are so unbearable.