Consciousness and The Ideal of Self:

That girl Lay Lay’s confidence in herself sometimes falters, and she might try to compensate for this weakness by insisting on her authority over others. With the people she is emotionally committed to, the same nagging feelings of insecurity prevent her from expressing her generosity and love fully; her extreme independence sometimes hides an inability to abandon herself and a lack of assurance.

That Girl Lay Lay has a paternal complex and, as a result, some trouble finding her identity. Perhaps her father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during her childhood, which deprived her of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because she might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, she was forced to protect herself against negative influences and find her own system in order to grow and feel secure.

Although this system was quite useful to her as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with her evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber her mind or inhibit her developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for her to assert herself, and she tends to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because her authoritarian urges are mainly directed at herself rather than others, she sometimes feels guilty about her behavior. She judges herself severely, and sometimes punishes herself by setting difficult tasks for herself. Gradually, she should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.

At the moment of Lay Lay’s birth, the two celestial “lights” (the sun and the moon) were symmetrically aligned. This is a portent of harmony between the masculine and feminine archetypes which is extremely beneficial. It is the source of balance and understanding between the two main psychological realms which may be said to compose the personality. Lay Lay thus enjoys a positive complementarity and understanding between the conscious and unconscious aspects of her psyche, between her determination and her routines, between her drive for self-assertion and her receptivity, her ideal and her sensitivity.

Lay Lay’s parents almost certainly reflected a positive image of the marriage relationship to her, and it is likely that they encouraged her to develop her own individuality. As a result, Lay Lay was and is able to be comfortable with herself as she is instead of striving to attain her parents’ ideal. This has definitely contributed to the maintenance of a good relationship with them and the rest of the family.

In Lay Lay’s emotional relationships with her peers, one of the effects of the masculine/feminine harmony is that the images her ego projects on the other are especially constructive. The bonds of the relationship are not felt to be constraints, the energy which flows between the two people is a source of mutual happiness, not regret. No major personal conflicts are projected onto the “other” – that is, the significant other.

Adaptation and Sensitivity:

Because That Girl Lay Lay’s personality is ruled by her mind, she needs intellectual stimulation in order to feel fulfilled. She is always on the move, in search of new contacts. Curious about all sorts of different subjects, she takes care to inform herself about many things. She enjoys conversation and communication and hopes to be admired for her talent and wit. Due to her having such a wide variety of interests, however, she can be something of a dilettante, and her thinking may sometimes lack discipline.

That Girl Lay Lay has a lively and curious intelligence, the very opposite of empty rhetoric and studiousness. She is agile and adaptable and can not only analyze difficult situations objectively but also demonstrate a profound comprehension when faced with a psychological problem.

That Girl Lay Lay is an expansive, affable, and communicative associate. Indeed, some people find her generous almost to a fault! She gives of herself and her resources unstintingly. Paradoxically, there are times when she is self-focused. She reacts instinctively, without taking the trouble to analyze a given situation, and are prone to misjudge. As a result, her everyday life may be riddled with a whole variety of practical problems. Indeed, she senses a conflict between her social life and her family and will sometimes find it hard to fulfill herself in both spheres at the same time. Her attitude toward her private life may inhibit her ambitions for social or career expansion; at worst, society (the law) may impinge on her private life. She should be careful not to project her personal problems onto her partner. If, instead, the two of you analyzed the problem, you might be able to find opportunities to resolve it together.

That Girl Lay Lay is emotional and tends to react suddenly and excessively as soon as her sensitivity is touched. Although she feels that her independence, freedom, and self-sufficiency are fundamental values, she is sometimes frustrated by her need to rely on her family or friends. Moreover, she does not always grant the freedom of other people the same respect as her own. Likewise, she is sometimes angered by expressions of maternal tenderness, as if she feared that it would doom her to eternal dependency. Her ambivalent behavior, full of jagged edges, may be traced back to the relationship she had with her mother or a mother figure. Although she was dependent on them, they may have rejected her. Now this attitude is extended to any situation in which her sensitivity comes into play and emotional bonds are liable to form. To ward off her feelings of dependency, she sometimes tends to become destructive. Based on denial, her reactions might be fierce, impulsive, excessive, erratic, or contradictory.

Because she is extremely sensitive and has an irrepressible imagination, That Girl Lay Lay sometimes has trouble distinguishing dreams from reality. Although her imagination can be an abundant source of inspiration for creative or spiritual evolution, it tends to be less helpful and positive in matters that concern earning a decent living out in the real world. In a relationship, she is extremely romantic and does not always see others the way they really are. She has elegant tastes and art and beauty are one of her chief pleasures in life.

Love and Sensuality:

That Girl Lay Lay’s sensitivity may sometimes overwhelm her partners, and her compassion for the other is profound. She readily sacrifices her own interest to others, to provide help and assistance. A romantic as well as an idealist, she sometimes lacks discernment in the choice of her partners. She is fairly confused and evasive and has trouble expressing her feelings clearly. Nevertheless, she is capable of devoting herself entirely to the person she loves. She has a tendency to daydream and become lost in herself.

That Girl Lay Lay’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of her emotional urges and somewhat wary of her feelings, she tries to rid herself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.

That Girl Lay Lay is bubbly, breezy, and attractive. She will not settle down readily. Although to protect herself from her own unconscious she would benefit from the support and structure a stable, solid mate would provide, she is likely to prefer someone just as unstructured as she is – or perhaps a younger partner. However, if her need to lead an original life leads her to meet an unusual person with whom she establishes a relationship more like friendship than love, she may share a sparkling, full intellectual life.

Disillusioned by love, Lay Lay takes pleasure in a kind of self-denial or self-sacrifice that occasionally borders on masochism. But Lay Lay knows that before Lay Lay can be loved by someone else, Lay Lay has got to learn to love Lay Lay. Only a relationship based on mutual respect and esteem can bring Lay Lay the emotional fulfillment Lay Lay seeks. A second marriage or relationship with an older partner should help Lay Lay to restore the balance that was largely lost in Lay Lay’s early relationships.

From the outside, That Girl Lay Lay seems to be detached and aloof, but on the inside she is an extremely complex individual, full of contradictions. Because she sometimes feels vulnerable emotionally, she tries to control not only her own feelings and urges, but may also strive to manipulate those of her partners. She aspires to a profound and enduring spiritual unity, but at the same time, the idea of abandoning herself and yielding to the other terrifies her. This anguish may be a source of rather extreme behavior patterns and a somewhat self-focused attitude which could damage the relationship. Because she is guarded and somewhat secretive, she tends to be suspicious and is especially uneasy about spontaneous intimacy, although she is fascinated by sexuality. Within the privacy of the couple, she will not express her feelings unless she is subject to some tension. Life may be peppered with frequent crises and feuds, arguments and spats which usually act as erotic provocation. This derivation of eroticism from anxiety tends to be one of the fundamental characteristics of her emotional and sexual functioning. As a result, she is likely to be attracted by stormy and complicated relationships.

Mental and Intellect:

That Girl Lay Lay is a flexible individual, and her intellectual faculties draw on sudden flashes of pure intuition as well as logical, rational thought. She has progressive, inventive, and sometimes utopian ideas; they usually relate to human or social problems. She always strives to be in the vanguard, creating a better world for the future.

She tries to shun subjectivity and be as objective as possible. Her thoughts are usually structured, and her reasoning, based on objective facts or experience, usually relates to practical goals.

In relations with other people, That Girl Lay Lay’s behavior is usually kind and benevolent. She exerts a certain charm, knows how to speak persuasively and convincingly, and is adept at smoothing the asperities of what she has to say when it is necessary. This aspect of her personality is a great advantage to her socially; however, in situations where she must either compete or deal with direct conflict and hostility, she may be somewhat at a loss for how to behave.

That Girl Lay Lay has an undeniable gift for oratory which could be applied to a communications-related occupation or to artistic expression (as a stage or screen actor). Writing and dance, two other arts which associate expression and movement, might also be fields in which she would excel.

In the formative years of childhood and adolescence, Lay Lay may have undergone a conflicting situation which prevented her from developing her intellectual and imaginative faculties in a harmonious way. It may be somewhat difficult for her to integrate new ideas and concepts or to give her thought structure and coherence.

Lay Lay has a distaste for study, which might require a great deal of effort for her. She could harbor feelings of insecurity that are so acute that they may undermine her will and therefore her ability to compete. However, if she overcame these emotions, she would see that she has plenty of marketable skills and that many satisfactory solutions to her feelings of ineptitude and inadequacy are within her reach.

Because this psychological complex may be related to childhood or adolescent opposition to parental or academic authority, Lay Lay may not readily accept people who represent law enforcement agencies or power as an adult. She may display some hostility or vindictiveness toward them as a matter of principle. She should sometimes be careful of what she says.