If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These weaknesses might be: your perfectionism, your tendency to hyperfocus on minutiae, your over intellectualization, and your comfort with a constant state of worry.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first step is to learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the good things in your life and all the changes you hope to make so you can enjoy them more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties that arose when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution, but you can overcome them if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.