Shaun Micallef does not feel very confident in himself, so he is fairly individualistic. He sometimes mingles with groups for their competitive atmosphere, but he will rarely join in them wholeheartedly, preferring to work on his own projects independently. Because he has low self-esteem, Shaun may sometimes have challenges in relationships. He may not be very generous or loving, because he is not sure he deserves it.
Shaun Micallef has a paternal complex, which causes some trouble finding his identity. Because he might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, Shaun was forced to protect himself against negative influences and find his own system in order to grow and feel secure. Although this system was quite useful to him as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with his evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber his mind or inhibit his developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for him to assert himself, and he tends to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because his authoritarian urges are mainly directed at himself rather than others, Shaun sometimes feels guilty about his behavior. He judges himself severely, and sometimes punishes himself by setting difficult tasks for himself. Gradually, he should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.
Shaun Micallef’s personality and behavior are liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling his psyche. Because his sensitivity is in conflict with his determination, his attitude and performance may sometimes be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, he has the feeling he has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging his yearnings and fulfilling his ambitions. His unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of his conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage his plans. In his relationships, the images he builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, might also annoy him. He could find it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Shaun Micallef values freedom and independence above all else. He spends a lot of energy trying to ensure that his private life reflects this, often skittish when it comes to any deep involvement in a relationship. As a result, he might intellectualize his emotions and feelings and feel as though he can live more easily on friendship than on love. Extremely socially-minded but idealistic, he has an affinity with the ideals of some social reform movement. His imagination looks to the future.
Shaun Micallef maintains strong ties with his past, and it often seems difficult for him to open his heart to new people. His love affairs might exist on the surface level, because his lust and sensual desire rarely turn into a need to understand, protect, and care for the other. Moreover, it is difficult for him to meet partners who combine the ideals of the tender parent and the great lover.
Shaun Micallef has a sensitive nature. Although he may sometimes have trouble controlling his emotional reactions, they are nevertheless a source of vital energy for a constructive passion and may make an extremely positive contribution to his career. In relations with other people, Shaun is quite friendly; he willingly reaches out to people and knows how to listen to their desires and their problems.
Although you are outwardly cool and distant, you are extremely sensitive. In some cases, your rather austere and rigid behavior and your refusal to yield too readily to sentimentality discourage others from being too demonstrative of their tenderness and affection. You have spells of melancholy in which you do not feel worthy of being loved and tend to forbid yourself emotional fulfillment. An austere or somewhat traumatic childhood experience may be the source of this behavior. You may have suffered rejection in your infancy, and, as a result, lacked the parental love which is essential to the cohesion of a personality and identity. In order to feel secure, and to protect yourself from ever suffering rejection or abandonment again, you withdrew into yourself and developed your aloofness as a defense mechanism. When you finally let down your defenses and allow yourself to express your feelings, you tend to become impassioned and exalted. You are fairly introverted and egocentric and have a powerful sense of your own identity.
Shaun Micallef prefers to observe life from afar, preferring not to get involved in the messy business of emotions. However, this distant attitude will not necessarily enable him to know and love himself better.
Although Shaun’s sensitivity and irrepressible imagination often lead him to question the distinction between dreams and reality, he is able to use his imaginative capacity for spiritual growth and creativity. However, his tendency to romanticize relationships can sometimes blind him to other people’s true nature.
Shaun Micallef thoughtfully inspects his nails. He’s never been one for filling out surveys, but he’s been given this one at work and he doesn’t want to look bad. He’s not sure if he’s happy or not. He’s not sure if he’s in a relationship or not.
Shaun Micallef’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of his emotional urges and somewhat wary of his feelings, he tries to rid himself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.
Shaun Micallef is torn between a strong thirst for liberty and a penchant to be somewhat submissive. Although this inner contradiction tinges his personality with an odd and captivating charm, it is also the source of ambivalent behavior and many of his disappointments in love. He will have to find a viable solution to his contradictory desires, because otherwise, he will be subject to baffling and dangerous infatuations which will leave him full of regrets and recrimination when the enchantment fades.
Shaun Micallef prefers rational communication to sentimental exchanges. He is fairly dry and ironic, meticulous and hesitant, and he may delay his choice so long he remains single or settles for a bad match. A dedicated partner would be better for him than a fiery one.
Shaun Micallef has the ardent, importunate nature of a fervent lover. Indeed, affairs of the heart are one of his main purposes in life. His personal charm and magnetism are compellingly seductive; unfortunately, his attempts at conquest do not always lead to the fulfillment and satisfaction of his desires. Due to his impulsiveness and impatience to initiate new encounters, his approach to those he is attracted to may sometimes lack tact and delicacy. As a result of the foregoing, it may be somewhat difficult for him to maintain stable and harmonious relationships. Nevertheless, his emotional behavior is subject to a conflict between his quest for love and his need to satisfy his lust. His outpourings of affection and his need to be loved in return sometimes create complicated situations in which lust may be confused with love, or love may exist without lust, and he may feel unrequited or unfulfilled. This inner contradiction is a sign of his tendency to derive pleasure from suffering – either his own or that of his partner. The relationship thus becomes the setting for a sort of power struggle, weakening it as a source of psychological equilibrium. Nevertheless, he could sublimate this difficulty through artistic expression.
You are a passionate and ardent person, and your relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, you are often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, your love life may be subject to some instability. You are generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate you. Your greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although you merge your ego entirely into the couple, you are likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If your partner charms and captivates you long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with you; otherwise, you are likely to yield to your need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for you. Midlife may be a turning point for you from this point of view. Your contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. Your behavior enables you to remain aloof, to commit yourself only halfway without consciously admitting it to yourself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when you lose interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps you from forming stable relationships. Indeed, you are tormented by the struggle between your undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, your romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by your conviction that your partner has become an obstacle to your individual progress. Because you think of love as a restraint, you may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, you will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, you are also likely to meet “the one” who inspires you to initiate a change in your behavior.
You have a romantic imagination, soaring with idealism, dreams, and poetry. You are emotive and hypersensitive, making you especially vulnerable emotionally, since you are sometimes overwhelmed by your feelings and affects. Although you seek an ideal soulmate, a partner with whom you could maintain blissful, smooth relations, you are sometimes met with disillusionment. Because your rather excessive sensitivity and your need to merge with the other are deep and powerful enough, they can submerge your judgment and discernment, so you sometimes form extremely intense bonds too quickly with individuals who are not appropriate partners in many ways. When you meet someone, you fall under the enchantment of your dream of ideal love and cannot keep yourself from delighting in a reverie of future romance, placing the other on a pedestal. Early on in the relationship, you yield to another of your characteristic urges and lose yourself in the individual who is so dear to you, melding with them, only to awaken one morning and find yourself as if in the arms of a stranger, greatly astounded and disappointed. Actually, your psyche is constructed in such a way as to make your sensitivity a function of the environment, in many cases; it follows the flow of momentary emotions and impressions. Before you take on any major commitments, you should make a conscious effort to evaluate the relationship realistically, and see whether the person really reciprocates your intense love, for you may merely be in love with the mirage of an ideal partner. Your tendency to believe in your illusions may mark you as an easy prey for people with bad intentions. It would be a good idea for you to find a different object for your affections, or a form of sublimation, because you tend to be so disappointed by your great emotional investments. The delicacy and subtlety of your imagination procure artistic refinement for you, and you love the arts, music, and literature, which could all be good sources of emotional involvement and fulfillment. Because your sensitivity also makes it easy for you to empathize with the psychological or social difficulties your peers are struggling with, you might also find it rewarding to commit yourself to social work.
Shaun Micallef’s intellect, which is simultaneously subjective and sensitive, acute and intuitive, always practical and deeply rooted in human experience, predisposes him to a people-oriented activity. With his memory and imagination combined with his shrewdness, he would be a gifted project manager, businesswoman, or scholar of history or literature.
Shaun Micallef expresses his thoughts and ideas in direct, spontaneous outbursts. He is fairly extroverted and eager to discover and understand the outer world. An idealist, he looks forward to a bright future but is sometimes subjective and reckless.
Shaun Micallef has a mind with an insatiable appetite for knowledge and an exceptional ability to learn. Without trying too hard, he could probably accumulate encyclopedic erudition. His intellectual curiosity is such that it is sometimes a drawback. He sometimes has trouble limiting himself to a single subject without being distracted by a multitude of others. Discipline and a conscious effort at organization will be of great help if he wants to deepen his learning and judgment. Once his intellectual faculties are disciplined, he is likely to succeed in any of the following fields: teaching, historical scholarship, advertising, writing (journalistic or literary), travel, etc: – in fact, communication in any form.