If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These include your coolness and distance, your lack of consideration for others, your rigidity, your need for total control, and your fear of your emotions.
Shannan Ponton has a Discord in relationships. Although she is friendly and outgoing and commits herself to friendships and partnerships, she often finds it difficult to balance her own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, she should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If she succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship she and her partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.
Shannan Ponton has a conflict between her desire for social and professional success and her need for a stable, secure domestic life. She is deeply committed to both ideas and does not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on her. Sometimes it feels as though she will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy her if she has neglected her most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to her to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if she merely sacrifices her domestic life, she is only trying to fool herself. She should accept the fact that her domestic life is the true basis and foundation of her development. All her career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.
Shannan Ponton has a tendency to be self-focused at times. Because of this, she may encounter conflict in relationships. Her certainty that she is bound to succeed, combined with impulsiveness, make her want to take charge of everything. This aggressiveness and lack of cooperation could arouse resentment in others. She would do well to meditate on the concepts of authority and individualism.
Shanan Ponton can be hypersensitive and easily offended, although she frequently changes her opinion and doesn't hold a grudge. She abhor conflict and is a good listener. Her key to self-improvement will be learning to control her impressionability.
Shannan Ponton tends to lure others to her and gain their love and approval. As a lover, she might be the impetuous type who rushes into a relationship without thinking, making a great show of affection at the outset. She could learn to evaluate the pros and cons of an emotional commitment more carefully if she wants to avoid leaving a trail of broken hearts.