$not is determined to obtain a superlative grip on its emotional urges; it practices holding back its impulses and controlling them. Although it is not an easy apprenticeship, it wants to be able to bear strain with patience, endurance, and stamina. More than anyone else, it is aware of the need for a solid and stable foundation as a prerequisite to any effective action.
You are vulnerable to a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling your psyche. Because your sensitivity is in conflict with your determination, your attitude and performance may sometimes be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, you have the feeling you have to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging your yearnings and fulfilling your ambitions. Your unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of your conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage your plans. In your relationships, the images you build up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, might also annoy you. You could find it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Reserved and introspective, you are intensely human. You are compassionate and sincerely devoted to others. Your mother or a mother-figure had a strong influence on your psyche, and your childhood was an important time in your life. You still identify with vivid childhood memories; they are the basis for your reveries, for your extreme sensitivity, and for habits which you may be slow to break. However, you will thrive in the shelter of a family setting, soothed by the presence of a spouse and children. You are fond of security and routine; being somewhat impressionable and anxious, you may have trouble adjusting to situations which are unfamiliar.
The intellect of $not is lively, agile, and sensitive. However, it does not always avail itself of it and may be confused or irrational in some situations. Although it enjoys playing with words, ideas, and concepts, its thought sometimes lacks discipline and structure. It is fairly preoccupied with details and may tend to waste its nervous and mental energy in futile verbal outpourings. Moreover, its feelings sometimes blur its objective vision of phenomena and people, which may cause it to make errors in judgment.
$not maintains strong ties with her past, and it often seems difficult for her to open her heart to new people. Her love affairs might exist on the surface level, because her lust and sensual desire rarely turn into a need to understand, protect, and care for the other. Moreover, it is difficult for her to meet partners who combine the ideals of the tender parent and the great lover.
$not has a sensitive personality. It may jump to conclusions, which could disrupt relationships, as well as career plans. It is subject to cyclical energy flows and goes from periods of feverish activity to periods of withdrawal and introspection. The aggressive element in its behavior may be explained by emotional problems it may have experienced in infancy: its mother, or a mother figure, may have had an energetic and volatile personality.
Although your sensitivity and irrepressible imagination can lead you to confuse dreams with reality, they can be helpful in your spiritual or creative development. However, they can also be less helpful when it comes to asserting yourself in a relationship. You are very romantic and often see others in a more positive light than they actually are.
$not is looking for the ideal love and tends to idealize her friends and lovers. A bizarre character, she may prefer to dream of her soulmate instead of making love to one; she is more in love with the idea of love than anything else. Her idealism may hide a fear of truly committing herself to a relationship; she tries to intellectualize everything. In time, two options will seem clear to her: an amorous friendship based on shared ideas and intellectual exchange, or an open relationship, free of all constraints except mutual respect.
The birth chart indicates that $not has an emotional function which is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. $not distrusts its emotional urges and somewhat warily looks at its feelings, trying to rid itself of all partiality and get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.
According to the aforegoing, it appears that $not is somewhat split between the various tendencies in its character. There is a conflict between freedom and attachment, between its ambitions and its need for security, and between its natural self-focus and its altruism. As a result, its mood may be somewhat whimsical and wayward; its youth was almost certainly wayward. Once it settles down, it will develop a great love for its family, especially for its children, if it chooses to have them. It will be tolerant, easygoing, and appreciate being able to express its individuality in a long-term commitment.
$not is an introverted idealist who hides your vulnerability as much from others as from themselves. Unless you choose a marriage of convenience that promotes the union of two ambitions, you might be better advised to opt for the single life and maintain your freedom and independence. Friendship will satisfy your need for affection and conversation.
$not has the fiery, importunate nature of a fervent lover. Indeed, affairs of the heart are one of $not’s main purposes in life. $not’s personal charm and magnetism give $not nearly irresistible powers of seduction, and nearly every one of $not’s well-aimed attempts at conquest leads to the fulfillment and satisfaction of $not’s desires. Due to $not’s impulsiveness and impatience to initiate new encounters, $not’s approach to members of the other sex may sometimes lack delicacy.
You are a passionate and ardent person, and your relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, you are often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, your love life may be subject to some instability. You are generally attracted to people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate you. Your greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although you merge your ego entirely into the couple, you are likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If your partner charms and captivates you long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with you; otherwise, you are likely to yield to your need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for you. Midlife may be a turning point for you from this point of view. Your contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. Your behavior enables you to remain aloof, to commit yourself only halfway without consciously admitting it to yourself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when you lose interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps you from forming stable relationships. Indeed, you are tormented by the struggle between your undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, your romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by your conviction that your partner has become an obstacle to your individual progress. Because you think of love as a restraint, you may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, you will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, you are also likely to meet “the one” who inspires you to initiate a change in your behavior.
You have a romantic imagination, soaring with idealism, dreams, and poetry. You are emotive and hypersensitive, making you especially vulnerable emotionally, since you are sometimes overwhelmed by your feelings and affects. Although you seek an ideal soulmate, a partner with whom you could maintain blissful, smooth relations, you are sometimes met with disillusionment. Because your rather excessive sensitivity and your need to merge with the other are deep and powerful enough, they can submerge your judgment and discernment, so you sometimes form extremely intense bonds too quickly with individuals who are not appropriate partners in many ways. When you meet someone, you fall under the enchantment of your dream of ideal love and cannot keep yourself from delighting in a reverie of future romance, placing the other on a pedestal. Early on in the relationship, you yield to another of your characteristic urges and lose yourself in the individual who is so dear to you, melding with them, only to awaken one morning and find yourself as if in the arms of a stranger, greatly astounded and disappointed. Actually, your psyche is constructed in such a way as to make your sensitivity a function of the environment, in many cases; it follows the flow of momentary emotions and impressions. Before you take on any major commitments, you should make a conscious effort to evaluate the relationship realistically, and see whether the person really reciprocates your intense love, for you may merely be in love with the mirage of an ideal partner. Your tendency to believe in your illusions may mark you as an easy prey for people with bad intentions. It would be a good idea for you to find a different object for your affections, or a form of sublimation, because you tend to be so disappointed by your great emotional investments. The delicacy and subtlety of your imagination procure artistic refinement for you, and you love the arts, music, and literature, which could all be good sources of emotional involvement and fulfillment. Because your sensitivity also makes it easy for you to empathize with the psychological or social difficulties your peers are struggling with, you might also find it rewarding to commit yourself to social work.
The third person narrator discusses how someone with a thought process similar to their own would be attracted to studying philosophy or law. They would also be interested in foreign languages or contacts abroad.
He does not express his thoughts and ideas smoothly or easily. He tends to be subjective, seeking to know himself better through a process of introversion.
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