ICONA becomes aware of the weaknesses which may be holding her back and preventing her evolution. She begins to become aware of the continual need for security, the tendency to escape into fantasy, the hunger for approval, the longing for the past, the fear of the future, and the investment systems.

ICONA sometimes senses a conflict between her desire for social and professional success and her need for a stable, secure domestic life. She is deeply committed to both ideas and does not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on her. Sometimes it feels as though she will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy her if she has neglected her most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to her to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if she merely sacrifices her domestic life, she is only trying to fool herself. She should accept the fact that her domestic life is the true basis and foundation of her development. All her career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must find your center and let go of your fears. You must find a way to relax and let go of your anxieties. You must develop a positive relationship with one or two people, and find a setting in which you can practice relaxation exercises.