If Griffin Johnson really wants to improve and transform himself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution:
– his coolness and distance
– his lack of consideration for others
– his rigidity
– his need for total control
– his fear of his emotions

Because of Griffin Johnson’s tendency to be self-focused at times, he may encounter conflict in relationships. His certainty that he is bound to succeed, combined with impulsiveness, make him want to take charge of everything. This aggressiveness and lack of cooperation could arouse resentment in others. Griffin Johnson would do well to meditate on the concepts of authority and individualism.

As we suggested earlier, Griffin Johnson is endowed with great sensitivity and has profound aspirations, especially romantic ones. Nevertheless, Griffin’s spirit is sometimes too delicate for Griffin to have armored and structured Griffin for the constraints of life out there in the real world. Moreover, Griffin sees little point in devoting Griffin to fulfilling the demands of practical reality, which strike Griffin as rather futile and empty. Griffin’s escapes into Griffin’s fantasy world give Griffin the illusion of a much greater reward. Griffin tends to gloss over Griffin’s vision of other people, and when they reveal their imperfections and incompetence, Griffin feels guilty for them and suffers from Griffin’s own vulnerability and illusions. Griffin would do well to try to be more selective about the people Griffin associates with; when Griffin is moving in a dream world, Griffin attracts the kind of dishonest people who are likely to take advantage of Griffin.

To trust Griffin Johnson better and gain self-assurance, the first thing Griffin Johnson must do is learn to say no. Once Griffin Johnson is capable of saying no to others, Griffin Johnson can say yes to life. Griffin Johnson must develop Griffin Johnson’s awareness of all the things Griffin Johnson loves and feel positive about, as well as all the changes Griffin Johnson hopes to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support Griffin Johnson, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of Griffin Johnson’s personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when Griffin Johnson was helpless may be obstacles to Griffin Johnson’s evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent Griffin Johnson from daring to confront challenges Griffin Johnson would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons Griffin Johnson yields to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to Griffin Johnson that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of Griffin Johnson’s identity. However, the more often Griffin Johnson reinforces this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware Griffin Johnson becomes of Griffin Johnson’s true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced Griffin Johnson’s pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for Griffin Johnson to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside Griffin Johnson that claims Griffin Johnson doesn’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of Griffin Johnson could undermine Griffin Johnson’s vitality and force Griffin Johnson to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, Griffin Johnson limits Griffin Johnson’s power to bring about a positive change in Griffin Johnson or Griffin Johnson’s life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free Griffin Johnson, the first step is to free Griffin Johnson from the fears which prevent Griffin Johnson from taking full advantage of life. Griffin Johnson can succeed if Griffin Johnson arranges a relaxed, positive environment for Griffin Johnson, establishes sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which Griffin Johnson can practice relaxation exercises.