Darren Hayes becomes aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution. He begins by becoming aware of his insatiable appetites, his stubbornness, his grimness, and his reluctance to change.

You sometimes sense a conflict between your desire for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are deeply committed to both ideas and do not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on you. Sometimes it feels as though you will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy you if you have neglected your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you are only trying to fool yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Darren Hayes was feeling conflicted. Although he had the ability to detach himself from his emotions to analyze and observe them, this tendency sometimes prevented him from truly engaging himself in emotional terms and may have been a defense against any emotional impact. This was the reason why he often subject all his feelings to an intellectual interpretation rather than yielding to them. It was also the reason why he might falter, hesitate, contradict himself, and seem to say both yes and no when he had the opportunity to commit himself emotionally. Darren should make a conscious effort to overcome this unconscious conditioning which may be related to his childhood. He must first learn to observe and assimilate other people’s feelings instead of rejecting them. This exercise would teach him to understand his own reactions and affects better.