Bebahan seems passive and more or less resigned to her fate, including her insecurity. Actually, she is fairly introverted and withdrawn, trying to make sense out of her inner confusion and fathom her inner depths.
You are a people pleaser, and often find it difficult to assert yourself. Because you were not given the necessary models or guidance in developing your personality, you had to create your own system in order to feel secure. This system was helpful during your childhood, but it has now become entrenched and inhibits your growth. As a result, in some situations you are unable to assert yourself, and you tend to be an awkward or passive observer. Because your authoritarian urges are mainly directed towards yourself, you sometimes feel guilty about your behavior. You judge yourself harshly, and sometimes punish yourself by setting difficult tasks for yourself. Gradually, you should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of life in a detached and mature way.
Bebahan has great strength of character. Her courage and endurance enable her to accomplish even extremely arduous tasks. Although she sometimes behaves impulsively, she generally knows how to plan out an effective strategy, and, as a result, she reaches her goals without meeting any major obstacles. Her forcefulness gives her certain leadership skills, which she may implement to creative and constructive ends.
Bebahan has a great potential for creative, constructive accomplishments; however, it is sometimes difficult for her to gain access to this part of herself. She is confident in herself and life but may tend to be nonchalant. She sometimes needs a little stimulation to get herself rolling and take some initiative. Her optimism and inner certainty do not always drive her to give her utmost efforts to achieve a goal. The communications skills she possesses are an advantage as well as a handicap. She makes use of her theatrical gifts, convincing eloquence, and ability to listen. The best careers for her would be teaching, communications, philosophy, the legal profession, theater, and public relations.
You are sober and rather reserved and may even strike people as harsh and austere at times. Perhaps you were raised in an atmosphere of rigor and sobriety, and, as a result, grew up very fast. You have acquired a spirit of self-sufficiency, tend to be rather uncompromising, and have a touchy sense of your personal dignity and worth. It is almost as though you were fighting an inner battle with your father or a father figure. The psychological models you received from your father or a father figure as a result of your interaction and your own interaction with authority may have played a major role in shaping your relationships with the outer world and society. You may thus have been forced to compensate for this with individual determination. As a result, although you are skillful, meticulous, conscientious, and efficient, a lack of self-confidence and personal assurance sometimes makes you timid and hesitant. You sometimes feel as though you are only masquerading as a respectable, sober adult. You tend to be far too critical of yourself and rarely feel satisfied that you are living up to your ideal. These unnecessary guilt feelings may lead you to turn down the prominent career positions for which you are fully qualified. You are aware that early success is often short-lived and fragile and that time rewards those who know how to be patient and persistent, like you.
Bebahan is gentle and sensitive, deeply human. She is sociable and devoted to others. Her mother or a mother-figure had a strong influence on her psyche, and her childhood was an important time in her life. She still identifies with vivid childhood memories; they are the basis for her reveries, for her extreme sensitivity, and for habits which she may be slow to break. However, she will thrive in the shelter of a family setting, soothed by the presence of a spouse and children. She is fond of security and routine; being somewhat impressionable and anxious, she may have trouble adjusting to situations which are unfamiliar.
Bebahan has a lively and curious intelligence, the very opposite of empty rhetoric and studiousness. She is agile and adaptable and can not only analyze difficult situations objectively but also demonstrate a profound comprehension when faced with a psychological problem.
Bebahan maintains strong ties with her past, and it often seems difficult for her to open her heart to new people. Her love affairs might exist on the surface level, because her lust and sensual desire rarely turn into a need to understand, protect, and care for the other. Moreover, it is difficult for her to meet partners who combine the ideals of the tender parent and the great lover.
You are emotional and tend to react suddenly and excessively as soon as your sensitivity is touched. Although you feel that your independence, freedom, and self-sufficiency are fundamental values, you are sometimes frustrated by your need to rely on your family or friends. Moreover, you do not always grant the freedom of other people the same respect as your own. Likewise, you are sometimes angered by expressions of maternal tenderness, as if you feared that it would doom you to eternal dependency. Your ambivalent behavior, full of jagged edges, may be traced back to the relationship you had with your mother or a mother figure. Although your mother may have been a figure of dependency for you, she may have rejected you. Now, this attitude is extended to any situation in which your sensitivity comes into play and emotional bonds are liable to form. To ward off your feelings of dependency, you sometimes tend to become destructive. Based on denial, your reactions might be fierce, impulsive, excessive, erratic, or contradictory.
Although your bubbling imagination provides an abundant source of inspiration for creative or spiritual evolution, it can sometimes be less helpful and positive when it comes to matters that concern your self-assertion as responsible and self-sufficient in a relationship. In a relationship, you are extremely romantic and may not always see others the way they really are.
Bebahan does not always readily reveal herself, and she tends to protect her sensitivity. She has a penchant for intense emotions, sexuality being a prominent element in her life, and her relationships, which are usually passionate, are motivated by her desires. She likes to understand the hidden side of people, their secret or unconfessed motivations. She would thus find a career which placed her in contact with troubled people especially rewarding.
Bebahan tries to express her affections in the most graceful and harmonious way possible. Indeed, she has an innate sense of harmony and strives for a love relationship characterized by balance and perfection. She tends to idealize both her partner and the institution of marriage. Any disillusionment she encounters in the pursuit of her ideal may be experienced as a frustration. She does not always ply her powers of seduction skillfully.
Bebahan’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of her emotional urges and somewhat wary of her feelings, she tries to rid herself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.
Bebahan was inhibited as an adolescent and still unsure of how to express her feelings. The way she went about cutting the umbilical cord with her parents would play a vital role in her destiny and may be the cause of a late marriage. She tended to be withdrawn, but she energetically performed any chore for those she loved. An excellent helpmate, she would adapt and devote herself body and soul to the one she chose. Family life should reveal a hidden side of her personality.
Bebahan’s view of love and her partner is distorted by the filter of her dreams and ideals. She goes from disillusionment to disappointment, becoming infatuated with unavailable people or getting involved with weak and unreliable characters. Her youth will therefore be an emotionally unstable period, full of conflict, breakups, and abandonment. Maturity should help her to resolve the inner conflict that’s responsible for these disappointments. If she can see and accept her partner as they really are, she will be able to revive the love she needs to ensure her emotional wellness.
You are an ardent and amorous person, and your relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, you are often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, your love life may be subject to some instability. You are generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate you. Your greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although you merge your ego entirely into the couple, you are likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If your partner charms and captivates you long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with you; otherwise, you are likely to yield to your need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for you. Midlife may be a turning point for you from this point of view. Your contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. Your behavior enables you to remain aloof, to commit yourself only halfway without consciously admitting it to yourself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when you lose interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps you from forming stable relationships. Indeed, you are tormented by the struggle between your undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, your romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by your conviction that your partner has become an obstacle to your individual progress. Because you think of love as a restraint, you may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, you will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, you are also likely to meet “the one” who inspires you to initiate a change in your behavior.
You have a romantic imagination, soaring with idealism, dreams, and poetry. You are emotive and hypersensitive, making you especially vulnerable emotionally, since you are sometimes overwhelmed by your feelings and affects. Although you seek an ideal soulmate, a partner with whom you could maintain blissful, smooth relations, you are sometimes met with disillusionment. Because your rather excessive sensitivity and your need to merge with the other are deep and powerful enough, they can submerge your judgment and discernment, so you sometimes form extremely intense bonds too quickly with individuals who are not appropriate partners in many ways. When you meet someone, you fall under the enchantment of your dream of ideal love and cannot keep yourself from delighting in a reverie of future romance, placing the other on a pedestal. Early on in the relationship, you yield to another of your characteristic urges and lose yourself in the individual who is so dear to you, melding with them, only to awaken one morning and find yourself as if in the arms of a stranger, greatly astounded and disappointed. Actually, your psyche is constructed in such a way as to make your sensitivity a function of the environment, in many cases; it follows the flow of momentary emotions and impressions. Before you take on any major commitments, you should make a conscious effort to evaluate the relationship realistically, and see whether the person really reciprocates your intense love, for you may merely be in love with the mirage of an ideal partner. Your tendency to believe in your illusions may mark you as an easy prey for people with bad intentions. It would be a good idea for you to find a different object for your affections, or a form of sublimation, because you tend to be so disappointed by your great emotional investments. The delicacy and subtlety of your imagination procure artistic refinement for you, and you love the arts, music, and literature, which could all be good sources of emotional involvement and fulfillment. Because your sensitivity also makes it easy for you to empathize with the psychological or social difficulties your peers are struggling with, you might also find it rewarding to commit yourself to social work.
Bebahan has a fairly skeptical temperament which relies on remarkable analytical and critical faculties. She is sensitive and curious, a keen observer of facts who collects detailed information she will later pore over and analyze. This type of logical, rational mind is extremely efficient for elaborating methods or sorting and classifying information. However, she sometimes lacks flexibility or broad-mindedness.
Bebahan tries to shun subjectivity and be as objective as possible. Her thoughts are usually structured, and her reasoning, based on objective facts or experience, usually relates to practical goals.
You are attracted to new ideas and technologies and are quick to understand their benefits. You are also able to communicate these ideas to others easily. This combination can make you successful in many occupations, including teaching, advertising, and communications. However, your personal development will also involve a lot of intellectual activity.