If you want to improve yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These might be your perfectionism, your tendency to hyperfocus on minutiae, your over intellectualization, or your comfort with a constant state of worry.
You sometimes struggle with the conflict between your desire to succeed in both your social and professional life and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are deeply committed to both ideas, but sometimes find it difficult to reconcile their schedules and demands on you. Sometimes it feels like you will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy you if you neglect your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you are only trying to fool yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.
Bebahan tends to lure others to her and gain their love and approval. As a lover, she might be the impetuous type who rushes into a relationship without thinking, making a great show of affection at the outset. She could learn to evaluate the pros and cons of an emotional commitment more carefully if she wants to avoid leaving a trail of broken hearts.
Bebahan is sensitive and sometimes impressionable. This can be a productive and creative factor, but if she does not manage to control her emotionalism, it can also hamper her adaptation to the realities of life. Were that to be the case, her ability to find happiness within herself could gradually cut her off from her environment. She must thus work on detaching herself from her emotions and getting a handle on her sensitivity. Her intuitive ability to perceive other people’s inner energies could predestine her for a socially oriented career. As a caregiver, healer, helper, guide, or advisor, she could succeed in teaching, psychology or psychiatry, or social work.
To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first step is to learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.