What does Bapsi Sidhwa’s psychology tell us about them?

Bapsi Sidhwa is determined to obtain a superlative grip on her emotional urges; she practices holding back her impulses and controlling them. Although it is not an easy apprenticeship, she wants to be able to bear strain with patience, endurance, and stamina. More than anyone else, she is aware of the need for a solid and stable foundation as a prerequisite to any effective action.

You have a paternal complex and, as a result, some trouble finding your identity. Perhaps your father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during your childhood, which deprived you of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because you might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, you were forced to protect yourself against negative influences and find your own system in order to grow and feel secure. Although this system was quite useful to you as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with your evolution.

Your psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber your mind or inhibit your developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for you to assert yourself, and you tend to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because your authoritarian urges are mainly directed at yourself rather than others, you sometimes feel guilty about your behavior. You judge yourself severely, and sometimes punishes yourself by setting difficult tasks for yourself. Gradually, you should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.

Bapsi Sidhwa’s personality and behavior are liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling his psyche. Because his sensitivity is in conflict with his determination, his attitude and performance may sometimes be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, he has the feeling he has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging his yearnings and fulfilling his ambitions. His unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of his conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage his plans. In his relationships, the images he builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, might also annoy him. He could find it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.

Bapsi Sidhwa, you may be subject to mood swings, going from phases of frenzy combined with a feeling of omnipotence and exaltation to phases of apathy and inertia. During your “highs,” your behavior is vigorous and dynamic, but it is also likely to be somewhat excessive. These periods tend to be interspersed with “lows,” phases of sluggishness and inhibition, which compensate for your immense need to assert yourself as an individual. How can you find a way out of this vicious cycle which uses up so much of your energy? You would have to understand that the source of your attitudes and behavior is an unconscious desire for power. We suggest that you meditate upon power, skills, mastery, challenge, desire, and need, your brothers (or brother substitutes, such as friends, cousins, or classmates) – who are key figures – and your adversaries. This should enlighten you. Of course, once you have a clear awareness of your career ambitions and profound desires, you are sure to have plenty of energy to accomplish them.

Bapsi Sidhwa has a strong-willed character, and is mindful of going about her purposes with maximum efficiency. When she relates to other people, she sometimes has trouble expressing her emotions, but she does have a lively sensitivity and is capable of lasting passion. As she grows older, she is quite likely to come into her own and acquire great intellectual and spiritual wisdom. Her honesty, integrity, and sense of duty will win her recognition and appreciation. Passing time will be a very important factor in her destiny, and her greatest accomplishments will guarantee her stability and prosperity. Although she is not especially enterprising, she will move into a high career position as soon as she feels sure of her abilities.

Bapsi Sidhwa is often insecure and self-conscious. This can make her come off as arrogant and haughty, as well as make her dislike any type of criticism.

You are an individualist who believes in freedom and independence. You have discarded what you view as the conventional and social constraints of your class, and adopted an innovative lifestyle. Unfortunately, your passionate convictions can sometimes conflict with the people you care about, as you are an uncompromising partner. You need to learn to recognize your own limitations and adjust your behavior in order to maintain healthy relationships. The reasons for your extreme behavior may be traced back to your relationships with your father or teachers when you were younger. In every significant life decision you make, you must rely on yourself to develop the appropriate behavior, and to set boundaries on your own desires in relation to reality and the law.

Bapsi Sidhwa regards freedom and independence as the most important values in life. She is always striving to ensure that her private life reflects these values. To avoid being tied down, she is hesitant to get involved in any kind of deep relationship. This is because she feels that she can live more easily on friendship than on love. She is highly socially-minded, but idealistic, which makes her feel an affinity with the ideals of some social reform movement. Her imagination looks to the future, anticipating all the possibilities that life has to offer.

Bapsi Sidhwa has a sensitive personality. She may jump to conclusions, which could disrupt relationships, as well as career plans. She is subject to cyclical energy flows and goes from periods of feverish activity to periods of withdrawal and introspection. The aggressive element in her behavior may be explained by emotional problems she may have experienced in infancy: her mother, or a mother figure, may have had an energetic and volatile personality.

Bapsi Sidhwa hides her sensitivity behind a cool exterior, preferring to follow the rules. She is conservative, respectful of tradition and convention, and likes to follow the rules. Because she needs stability to alleviate her feelings of frustration and sometimes emotional dependency, she has great faith in contracts which seal relationships. Her ties to her past are fairly strong. They are a source of reassurance and safety, because her parents likely gave her a lot.

You are emotional and tend to react suddenly and excessively as soon as your sensitivity is touched. Although you feel that your independence, freedom, and self-sufficiency are fundamental values, you are sometimes frustrated by your need to rely on your family or friends. Moreover, you do not always grant the freedom of other people the same respect as your own. Likewise, you are sometimes angered by expressions of maternal tenderness, as if you feared that it would doom you to eternal dependency. Your ambivalent behavior, full of jagged edges, may be traced back to the relationship you had with your mother or a mother figure. Although you were dependent on them, they may have rejected you. Now this attitude is extended to any situation in which your sensitivity comes into play and emotional bonds are liable to form. To ward off your feelings of dependency, you sometimes tend to become destructive. Based on denial, your reactions might be fierce, impulsive, excessive, erratic, or contradictory.

Bapsi Sidhwa feels sensitive and imaginative. Although her bubbling imagination provides an abundant source of inspiration for creative or spiritual evolution, she sometimes has trouble distinguishing dreams from reality. Although her romantic and imaginative nature makes her an excellent partner in relationships, she sometimes does not see others the way they really are.

Bapsi Sidhwa tries to express her affections in the most graceful and harmonious way possible. Indeed, she has an innate sense of harmony and strives for a love relationship characterized by balance and perfection. She tends to idealize both her partner and the institution of marriage. Any disillusionment she encounters in the pursuit of her ideal may be experienced as a frustration. She does not always ply her powers of seduction skillfully.

Bapsi Sidhwa’s birth chart indicates that her emotional function is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of her emotional urges and somewhat wary of her feelings, Bapsi tries to rid herself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.

Bapsi Sidhwa rides on waves of enthusiasm and idealism, in love she is dashing and uninhibited. She demands a great deal of her companion both intellectually and socially, dreaming of a brilliant partner who can give her a thrilling life and outstanding and unusual success. Once she finds her one-in-a-million mate, she will eagerly support them. However, the dream is not foolproof, because her lack of good judgment and perspicacity may lead her to commit herself prematurely to someone who won’t keep these promises.

Bapsi Sidhwa is very lucky in love and cannot live without her following of admirers. Prestige will play an important role in her relationship. A wonderful host, a busy and successful social or society life is essential to her well-being.

You are an individual with a complex personality, full of contradictions. You often feel vulnerable emotionally, so you try to control not only your own feelings and urges, but also those of your partners. You aspire to a profound spiritual unity, but at the same time, the idea of abandoning yourself and yielding to the other terrifies you. This anguish may be a source of rather extreme behavior patterns and a somewhat self-focused attitude which could damage the relationship. Because you are guarded and somewhat secretive, you tend to be suspicious and are especially uneasy about spontaneous intimacy. However, within the privacy of the couple, you will not express your feelings unless you are subject to some tension. Life may be peppered with frequent crises and feuds, arguments and spats which usually act as erotic provocation. This derivation of eroticism from anxiety tends to be one of the fundamental characteristics of your emotional and sexual functioning. As a result, you are likely to be attracted by stormy and complicated relationships.

Bapsi Sidhwa has a fairly skeptical temperament which relies on remarkable analytical and critical faculties. She is sensitive and curious, a keen observer of facts who collects detailed information she will later pore over and analyze. This type of logical, rational mind is extremely efficient for elaborating methods or sorting and classifying information. However, it sometimes lacks flexibility or broad-mindedness.

Bapsi Sidhwa tries to shun subjectivity and be as objective as possible. Her thoughts are usually structured, and her reasoning, based on objective facts or experience, usually relates to practical goals.

You have a deep-seated need to express yourself and communicate with others. You can’t function without communicating your thoughts and ideas. You’re drawn to anything new and different, and you quickly understand the value in the latest technology or philosophy, no matter how complex it may be. Because you’re highly motivated, you have difficulty maintaining focus on a single subject for very long, unless it’s something that interests you intellectually. However, your open-mindedness allows you to be creative in many professions, such as teaching, communications, and advertising. Regardless of the career you choose, your personal growth will involve intellectual activity and progress.

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