Jay Kristoff examines consciousness and the ideal of self in his book The Revolution of Everyday Life.
Jay Kristoff is trying to overcome his feelings of insecurity. To do so, he needs a home: a dwelling, a territory, or perhaps a safe space or setting where he can rest, and let down his systems of defense against the outer world, which he finds aggressive and hostile. He is ready to make some sacrifices in order to maintain and consolidate the structure he has chosen. True inner security, based on real knowledge of himself, his abilities, and his shortcomings, his strengths and his weaknesses, would no doubt be most effective and would allow him to remain open to the varieties of experience offered by the world.
Jay Kristoff has a paternal complex and, as a result, some trouble finding his identity. Perhaps his father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during his childhood, which deprived him of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because he might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, he was forced to protect himself against negative influences and find his own system in order to grow and feel secure.
Although this system was quite useful to him as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with his evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber his mind or inhibit his developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for him to assert himself, and he tends to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because his authoritarian urges are mainly directed at himself rather than others, he sometimes feels guilty about his behavior. He judges himself severely, and sometimes punishes himself by setting difficult tasks for himself. Gradually, he should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.
Jay Kristoff has a personality and behavior liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling his psyche. Because his sensitivity is in conflict with his determination, his attitude and performance may sometimes be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, he has the feeling he has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging his yearnings and fulfilling his ambitions. His unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of his conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage his plans. In his relationships, the images he builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, might also annoy him. He could find it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Jay Kristoff has adapted well to his new job. He is sensitive to the needs of his customers and is always looking for ways to improve his service.
Jay Kristoff is pragmatic and realistic. He evaluates people and things according to practical, common-sense criteria instead of abstract concepts. A sensualist and lover of luxury, he has a penchant for material comfort and takes great joy in physical pleasures. In relation to others, socially and privately, he likes to build stable relationships and is not especially fond of change. His warmth gives him a great deal of ease when meeting people, as clients (for business purposes), but his close relations also benefit from this affection and his ability to express his feelings naturally and openly.
Jay Kristoff has an emotional and tend to react suddenly and excessively as soon as his sensitivity is touched. Although he feels that his independence, freedom, and self-sufficiency are fundamental values, he is sometimes frustrated by his need to rely on his family or friends. Moreover, he does not always grant the freedom of other people the same respect as his own. Likewise, he is sometimes angered by expressions of maternal tenderness, as if he feared that it would doom him to eternal dependency. His ambivalent behavior, full of jagged edges, may be traced back to the relationship he had with his mother or a mother figure. Although he was dependent on them, they may have rejected him. Now this attitude is extended to any situation in which his sensitivity comes into play and emotional bonds are likely to form. To ward off his feelings of dependency, he sometimes tends to become destructive. Based on denial, his reactions might be fierce, impulsive, excessive, erratic, or contradictory.
Jay Kristoff loves and sensually explores love and sexuality.
Jay Kristoff is sometimes afraid to love – the world of his feelings is characterized by a certain chill and restraint. But he is not unfeeling; on the contrary, his sensitivity is so delicate that he is careful to protect it. His determination to maintain control of his feelings and force his emotions to obey the laws of reason may stand in the way of intimacy and joy.
Jay Kristoff's birth chart indicates an emotional function which is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of his emotional urges and somewhat wary of his feelings, he tries to rid himself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.
Jay Kristoff has a fairly equivocal mixture of charm and passion, strength and frailty, which he wields with the purpose of controlling the other in addition to being loved. He is subject to intense and sometimes tragic passions, in which ecstasy and pain, jealousy and tenderness mingle inextricably. However, it is possible that as time goes on, he may succeed in overcoming his instincts, and be able to devote himself to the mate he has chosen in a positive and creative way.
Jay Kristoff is more ambitious than sentimental and tends to try to compensate for his frustrated emotions with social recognition and career success. He does not always choose the most fitting partners, which may result in some disappointments or painful separations.
Jay Kristoff has a hypersensitivity and tend to relive the anxieties, apprehensions, and romantic absolutes of his first love relationships, which occurred around the ages of 13-14 years or 20-21 years. He is exquisitely sensitive, but almost completely barricaded behind a layer of aloofness. He will not settle for anything less than eternal commitment, total harmony, and absolute loyalty. He is sometimes presumed to be cold, even by those close to her. He usually hides his emotional reactions or do not even allow them to reach the level of his consciousness, in an effort to protect his sensitivity, which he sees as his weak point. He is fairly vulnerable, even in the intimacy of a stable and established relationship. Usually, he will disguise his strong feelings as a kind of possessiveness or even jealousy. Certain misfortunes may arouse a negative emotional state inside him, and he feels unworthy of the love which is lavished on him. This psychological prohibition which rules over all of your desires and affects should loosen with the passage of time; likewise, your fear of approaching the other will diminish. As a result, the second part of your romantic life will be more rewarding. In any case, if you want to experience a harmonious love relationship and gratify yourself emotionally, the defense mechanisms you have elaborated to make yourself inaccessible to others will have to be dismantled.
Jay Kristoff has a good balance between his need for movement and his tendency to be sedentary. He is just as likely to adapt to situations which require outbursts of initiative as to those which demand patience and perseverance.
Jay Kristoff has a strong mental and intellect.
Jay Kristoff has a curious, skeptical, and pragmatic mind. He always tries to detect the hidden mechanisms and processes behind the phenomena he observes. As a result, he has developed an ability to detect the truth behind appearances and the cause behind the effect. Although this way of thinking is based on a certain logic, and there is evidence of structure and cohesion in his deductive approach, it is not always purely intellectual. Indeed, its sources lie in a certain empiricism, in facts which have been experienced, so it is open to improvement. For this reason, its fields of application are highly diverse, although research in the hard sciences, psychology, and metaphysics seem to be the best career choices.
Jay Kristoff expresses his thoughts and ideas carefully, but with a relative lack of spontaneity. He is rather introverted and looks inside himself for the solutions to the problems he encounters in life. Because he tends to mistrust customary thought patterns, his opinion is usually highly personal.