If you want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These could be things like your perfectionism, your tendency to hyperfocus on minutiae, your over intellectualization, or your comfort with a constant state of worry.

Avery Monsen,

You may experience discord in relationships. Although you are friendly and outgoing, and commit yourself to friendships and partnerships, you often find it difficult to balance your own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, you should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If you succeed in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship you and your partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Avery Monsen is curious but undiscriminating. He is high-strung and fluctuating; he sometimes has trouble disciplining his mind. Because he finds change and variety especially stimulating and pleasant, he may be a bit fickle as a partner in a relationship or friendship. Many of his conflicts with other people are due to his instability and lack of self-control. If he succeeds in mastering and channeling his considerable mental energy, he could be extremely effective in such fields as communications and teaching.