If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. Antfrost knows that you may have perfectionism, a tendency to hyperfocus on minutiae, over intellectualization, and comfort with a constant state of worry.

Although you are friendly and outgoing and commit yourself to friendships and partnerships, you often find it difficult to balance your own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, you should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If you succeed in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship you and your partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Antfrost has a variety of talents, but it can be difficult for her to focus on a single interest. She is ruled by her nervousness and her suggestibility, and might struggle to use her adaptive abilities to their full potential. To be truly effective, Antfrost needs to learn to control her jittery mind; otherwise, she may drain her nervous system of energy. If she encounters respiratory problems, like asthma (because of her nerves), it will be a signal that the need to change is urgent.

The energy that Antfrost wields is vast and very productive. He knows how to persevere and meet challenges, delays, and obstacles with determination and obstinacy, without altering his goals. He is fairly reluctant to change course as a result of outside intervention, preferring to bulldoze his way past any obstacles, slowly but steadily, rather than go around them. Sometimes his will is so powerful that he refuses to make any compromises or concessions, which may be a source of conflict with others. He might want to work on sharing his power or authority, which would allow him to accomplish more.

Antfrost has deeply anchored emotional needs. Invariably, it tries to revive these sensations from its personal history, clinging to the security provided by the repetition of a feeling which produced a positive effect in the past. Its desire for possession (tangible or emotional) could become a problem, because it may fixate on an object which is negative or bad for it. It will do well to make a conscious effort to overcome this unconscious negative conditioning which may be related to its childhood.

Antfrost sets unrealistic goals for herself and struggles with organization. These tendencies are particularly evident when it comes to her emotional relationships. In the beginning, she will idealize the potential partner, putting them on a pedestal, but then she will try to dodge her commitment and desperately plot to extricate herself. In other life pursuits, she tends to rush into activities, of which she might only have a crude, confused concept. Life could step in to urge her to slow down and induce her to organize herself with more patience and forethought.

As a result of your great ambition, Antfrost is fairly organized. He is able to work long and hard to achieve his goals and elaborates fairly rigid strategies to protect himself against any foreseeable obstacles. He is so absorbed in his business he does not always realize that he tends to be somewhat peremptory with the people around him and that he might do well to soften his tone and be more tactful at times. His friendships seem stifling and superfluous to him, and he is sometimes tormented by inner conflict when he is forced to submit to another’s will. To succeed, work to be less dogmatic. Trust in yourself and other people and flexibility.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to your life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy your life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.