If you want to improve your life, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your growth:- your coolness and distance- your lack of consideration for others- your rigidity- your need for total control- your fear of your emotions

Although you are friendly and outgoing, you often find it difficult to balance your own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, you should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If you succeed in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship you and your partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Alexis Knief’s mental processes are lightning quick. As a result, she tends to jump to conclusions and make immediate decisions before she knows all the facts. This rash and impetuous behavior could cause communications problems and arouse needless opposition in others. Her mind is generally too busy with the immediate future to take time for careful analysis and reflection. She would do well to slow down and organize herself before she speaks, but the same behavior has a positive side. It can be of great use to her in rushed or quickly changing work situations, which require last-minute, immediate decisions.