If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding back your evolution:- your coolness and distance- your lack of consideration for others- your rigidity- your need for total control- your fear of your emotions.

Alabama Barker may experience discord in relationships. Although she is friendly and outgoing and commits herself to friendships and partnerships, she often finds it difficult to balance her own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, she should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If she succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship she and her partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Alabama Barker is organized and driven. She has a clear plan and strategies for success, but she is also able to adapt when things don’t go as planned. She is often direct and demanding of those around her, but she knows how to be persuasive when she needs to be. Her relationships are important to her, but she sometimes feels suffocated by them. She needs to trust that others will help her achieve her goals, and she needs to be flexible in order to succeed.

As Alabama Barker, I am endowed with sensitivity, aspirations, and a delicate spirit. However, I sometimes find practical reality too difficult and empty, and I escape into my fantasy world to find a greater reward. I tend to gloss over my vision of other people, and when they reveal their imperfections and incompetence, I feel guilty for them and suffer from my own vulnerability and illusions. I would do well to try to be more selective about the people I associate with; when I am in the real world, I attract the honest people who are likely to take advantage of me.