If you want to improve yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These can be your shallowness, lack of sincerity, indifference, frivolity, and fear of commitment.

You sometimes struggle with the conflict between your desire for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are deeply committed to both ideas and sometimes find it hard to reconcile their conflicting demands on you. Sometimes it feels like you’ll never be able to find a balance, but no promotion will really satisfy you if you neglect your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you’re only fooling yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development, and all your career endeavors will be more rewarding if they’re supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Al Horford’s mind tends to soar from one ideal or theory to the next without ever adopting any one approach. Because he rarely takes the trouble to steady his vision and deepen it, or to stick to an activity after it becomes tiresome, he is often disappointed. His lack of constancy and his inability to commit himself to any long-term effort, as well as his tendency to evade responsibility, could be obstacles to his life in the real world.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first step is to learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the good things in your life, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life.