Aiden Onfory seeks others in order to structure herself. Intuitively sensing this need, she seeks a balance between her individual ambitions and need to give to others and be loved and recognized in return. Although it sometimes eludes her, marriage and friendship could be realms to which she is especially devoted. However, they may also prove to be a source of conflict and disillusion.

Aiden Onfory,

You may be subject to mood swings, going from phases of frenzy combined with a feeling of omnipotence and exaltation to phases of apathy and inertia. During your “highs,” your behavior is vigorous and dynamic, but it is also likely to be somewhat excessive. These periods tend to be interspersed with “lows,” phases of sluggishness and inhibition, which compensate for your immense need to assert yourself as an individual. How can you find a way out of this vicious cycle which uses up so much of your energy?

You would have to understand that the source of your attitudes and behavior is an unconscious desire for power. We suggest that you meditate upon power, skills, mastery, challenge, desire, and need, your brothers (or brother substitutes, such as friends, cousins, or classmates) – who are key figures – and your adversaries. This should enlighten you. Of course, once you have a clear awareness of your career ambitions and profound desires, you are sure to have plenty of energy to accomplish them.

You are a sober and rather reserved person who may even strike people as harsh and austere at times. Perhaps you were raised in an atmosphere of rigor and sobriety, and, as a result, grew up very fast. You have acquired a spirit of self-sufficiency, tend to be rather uncompromising, and have a touchy sense of your personal dignity and worth. It is almost as though you were fighting an inner battle with your father or a father figure. The psychological models you received from your father or a father figure as a result of your interaction and your own interaction with authority may not have played a major role in shaping your relationships with the outer world and society. You may thus have been forced to compensate for this with individual determination. As a result, although you are skillful, meticulous, conscientious, and efficient, a lack of self-confidence and personal assurance sometimes makes you timid and hesitant. You sometimes feel as though you are only masquerading as a respectable, sober adult. You tend to be far too critical of yourself and rarely feel satisfied that you are living up to your ideal. These unnecessary guilt feelings may lead you to turn down the prominent career positions for which you are fully qualified. You are aware that early success is often short-lived and fragile and that time rewards those who know how to be patient and persistent, like you.

Aiden Onfory desires freedom and independence. He expends a great deal of energy to ensure that his private life expresses these values. To avoid being tied down, he tends to be skittish when it comes to any profound involvement in a relationship. As a consequence, he might intellectualize his emotions and feelings and feel as though he can live more easily on friendship than on love. Extremely socially-minded but idealistic, he almost certainly feels an affinity with the ideals of some social reform movement. His imagination looks to the future.

Aiden Onfory has a sensitive and affectionate nature. She seeks tenderness and gentleness more than passion. Her relationships with others are smooth and pleasant, and she has a natural sense of tact and social grace.

Aiden Onfory’s attractions are usually immediate and intense. They rise quickly to fever pitch. The story of these passions is often dramatic to excess, combining all the plot elements of a classic love tragedy: jealousy, possessiveness, agony as an erotic stimulant, etc.

Aiden Onfory was born with an emotional function that is expressed in a direct and fairly impulsive way. She enjoys reaching out to other people and making discoveries. An eternal teenager with her gaze riveted on the future, she is imbued with an eminently subjective and personal idealism.

Aiden Onfory is fairly independent, and has trouble finding emotional fulfillment. His youthful idealism subsided into disillusionment which has taught him to shield his sensitivity by being critical or ironic. Because he fears being overwhelmed by his feelings and does not readily yield to love, he prefers to be friends with his ideal partner. His ideal partner would be original, tender, and reassuring, apt to instill cheerfulness in their relationship, and bright enough to stimulate him intellectually. If he were to marry too young or too soon, he might find himself trapped in a stultifying situation.

Aiden Onfory has an unsettling attraction which cannot completely hide a certain aloofness. If his loving feelings are frustrated, he may sink into a state of deep despair. This may lead him to marry on the rebound. The jealousy he arouse, or that drives him at times, might have devastating effects.

Aiden Onfory is characterized by strong sensual and affectionate urges which drive him to seek pleasure. His need for romantic fulfillment may compel him to marry, because he also seeks the legal and social legitimacy the institution of marriage confers on an emotional bond. Indeed, the household is liable to be prosperous and even opulent, as if this offered further evidence that he had indeed achieved success. However, privately, he might be less committed to certain obligations and duties.

Aiden Onfory has an ardent and amorous character, and her relationships with the other sex are enlivened by intensity and passion. As a result, her love life may be subject to some instability. She is generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate her. Love is often a matter of luck with her. Even when a relationship falls apart, she does not see the experience as a failure or a tragedy; instead, she seems to learn valuable lessons from her mistakes. Psychologically, her emotion contributes positively and efficiently to her evolution. From another standpoint, her acute sensitivity predisposes her to original and subtle tastes; she is so receptive to beauty and attached to the concepts of truth and balance that they may all combine to yield remarkable creative potential.

You have a romantic imagination, soaring with idealism, dreams, and poetry. You are emotive and hypersensitive, making you especially vulnerable emotionally, since you are sometimes overwhelmed by your feelings and affects. Although you seek an ideal soulmate, a partner with whom you could maintain blissful, smooth relations, you are sometimes met with disillusionment. Because your rather excessive sensitivity and your need to merge with the other are deep and powerful enough, they can submerge your judgment and discernment, so you sometimes form extremely intense bonds too quickly with individuals who are not appropriate partners in many ways. When you meet someone, you fall under the enchantment of your dream of ideal love and cannot keep yourself from delighting in a reverie of future romance, placing the other on a pedestal. Early on in the relationship, you yield to another of your characteristic urges and lose yourself in the individual who is so dear to you, melding with them, only to awaken one morning and find yourself as if in the arms of a stranger, greatly astounded and disappointed. Actually, your psyche is constructed in such a way as to make your sensitivity a function of the environment, in many cases; it follows the flow of momentary emotions and impressions. Before you take on any major commitments, you should make a conscious effort to evaluate the relationship realistically, and see whether the person really reciprocates your intense love, for you may merely be in love with the mirage of an ideal partner. Your tendency to believe in your illusions may mark you as an easy prey for people with bad intentions. It would be a good idea for you to find a different object for your affections, or a form of sublimation, because you tend to be so disappointed by your great emotional investments. The delicacy and subtlety of your imagination procure artistic refinement for you, and you love the arts, music, and literature, which could all be good sources of emotional involvement and fulfillment. Because your sensitivity also makes it easy for you to empathize with the psychological or social difficulties your peers are struggling with, you might also find it rewarding to commit yourself to social work.

Aiden Onfory is attracted to wide open spaces and distant horizons; as a scholar, she feels an affinity for higher studies such as philosophy or law. However, foreign languages or contacts abroad might also interest her.

Aiden Onfory expresses her thoughts and ideas in direct, spontaneous outbursts. She is fairly extroverted and eager to discover and understand the outer world. An idealist, she looks forward to a bright future but is sometimes subjective and reckless.

Aiden Onfory often makes mistakes in judgment and has a difficult time understanding social realities and prevailing opinion. His judgments are hasty and his decisions reckless. He overestimates his abilities and usually aims higher than is realistic. Once an enterprise or project is underway, he may try to avoid obstacles by dodging certain duties. Because of his different vision of the world, Aiden Onfory should be extremely careful and scrupulous in regard to legal matters, in order to avoid any complications. He is sometimes slightly dishonest in his relations; he may break promises or attempt to duck responsibility. However, he should realize that such conduct toward other people is also a form of unconscious self-loathing. If he continues to behave in such a way, he is exposing himself to the same lack of sincerity from his partners.