If Xenia Adonts really wants to improve and transform herself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding her back and preventing her evolution:
– her excessive independence
– her fear of commitment
– her eccentricity
– her instability
– her fear of intimacy

To trust Xenia Adonts better and gain self-assurance, the first thing Xenia must do is learn to say no. Once Xenia is capable of saying no to others, Xenia can say yes to life. Xenia must develop Xenia’s awareness of all the things Xenia loves and feel positive about, as well as all the changes Xenia hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support Xenia, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of Xenia’s personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when Xenia was helpless may be obstacles to Xenia’s evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent Xenia from daring to confront challenges Xenia would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons Xenia yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to Xenia that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of Xenia’s identity. However, the more often Xenia reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware Xenia become of Xenia’s true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced Xenia’s pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for Xenia to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside Xenia that claims Xenia doesn’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of Xenia could undermine Xenia’s vitality and force Xenia to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, Xenia limit Xenia’s power to bring about a positive change in Xenia or Xenia’s life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free Xenia, the first step is to free Xenia from the fears which prevent Xenia from taking full advantage of life. Xenia can succeed if Xenia arrange a relaxed, positive environment for Xenia, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which Xenia can practice relaxation exercises.