Consciousness and The Ideal of Self:
Tommy is trying to overcome his feelings of insecurity. To do so, he needs a home: a dwelling, a territory, or perhaps a safe space or setting where he can rest, and let down his systems of defense against the outer world, which he finds aggressive and hostile. He is ready to make some sacrifices in order to maintain and consolidate the structure he has chosen. True inner security, based on real knowledge of himself, his abilities, and his shortcomings, his strengths and his weaknesses would no doubt be most effective and would allow him to remain open to the varieties of experience offered by the world.
At the moment of Tommyinnit’s birth, the two celestial “lights” (the sun and the moon) were symmetrically aligned. This is a portent of harmony between the masculine and feminine archetypes which is extremely beneficial. It is the source of balance and understanding between the two main psychological realms which may be said to compose the personality. Tommyinnit thus enjoys a positive complementarity and understanding between the conscious and unconscious aspects of his psyche, between his determination and his routines, between his drive for self-assertion and his receptivity, his ideal and his sensitivity.
Tommyinnit’s parents almost certainly reflected a positive image of the marriage relationship to him, and it is likely that they encouraged him to develop his own individuality. As a result, Tommyinnit was and is able to be comfortable with himself as he is instead of striving to attain his parents’ ideal. This has definitely contributed to the maintenance of a good relationship with them and the rest of the family.
In Tommyinnit’s emotional relationships with his peers, one of the effects of the masculine/feminine harmony is that the images his ego projects on the other are especially constructive. The bonds of the relationship are not felt to be constraints, the energy which flows between the two people is a source of mutual happiness, not regret. No major personal conflicts are projected onto the “other” – that is, the significant other.
Tommyinnit generally tends to be motivated by activities which apply to social needs. Tommyinnit tends to give the best of himself in difficult situations which require crucial choices. Tommyinnit’s ability to concentrate and Tommyinnit’s gift for solving problems by deductive reasoning are Tommyinnit’s chief resources in crisis situations or at turning points in Tommyinnit’s life.
Adaptation and Sensitivity:
Physical and mental freedom are vital to Tommyinnit. His youth and home may have been of the rootless, wandering type, which could have given him a taste for movement and independence. He needs to be aware that his life has a purpose and hunt for it in various belief systems, both traditional and new age. In fact, he has an unmistakable gift for philosophy. The faraway appeals to him, and travel is likely to be an important aspect of his life.
Tommyinnit has a sensitive personality. He may jump to conclusions, which could disrupt relationships, as well as career plans. He is subject to cyclical energy flows and goes from periods of feverish activity to periods of withdrawal and introspection. The aggressive element in his behavior may be explained by emotional problems he may have experienced in infancy: his mother, or a mother figure, may have had an energetic and volatile personality.
Sexuality is an important part of Tommyinnit’s life, and Tommyinnit’s relationships are most often determined by Tommyinnit’s instincts. If Tommyinnit has a relationship that is exclusively satisfying sexually, however, Tommyinnit might feel frustration, because Tommyinnit is driven by a kind of unconscious guilt to seek fulfillment for Tommyinnit’s heart and soul as well. Tommyinnit tends to be a rather excessive and tormented partner, who often re-evaluates the bonds that connect Tommyinnit to Tommyinnit’s partners.
Love and Sensuality:
Tommyinnit enjoys captivating people with the elegance and ease of their expression. They are a witty and engaging flirt, an avid player of the game of love. As a result, the history of their affections is liable to be episodic, a long series of chapters about conquests or fleeting love affairs. They may carry on some love relationships by writing letters.
Tommyinnit’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of emotional urges and somewhat wary of feelings, Tommyinnit tries to rid themselves of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.
Always riding on a wave of enthusiasm, in love Tommyinnit is dashing and uninhibited. His frankness is sometimes devastating, and his aggressiveness sometimes creates problems. A strong-minded person, he is not ready to give up either his freedom or his taste for adventure. He tends to place those he loves on a pedestal and then end up disappointed. However, he is ready to devote himself entirely to cheering for and supporting the mate he eventually chooses.
Due to Tommyinnit’s intellectual temperament, they are sometimes more interested in verbal or social exchanges than in actual lovemaking. They enjoy flirting and tend to have fun with love rather than become passionately engaged. Because they avoid intense passion, they tend to flutter from one good-looking face to the next, enjoying their ability to charm. They believe that played this way, the game of love can have few serious consequences.
Tommyinnit has the fiery, importunate nature of a fervent lover. Indeed, affairs of the heart are one of his main purposes in life. His personal charm and magnetism give him nearly irresistible powers of seduction, and nearly every one of his well-aimed attempts at conquest leads to the fulfillment and satisfaction of his desires. Due to his impulsiveness and impatience to initiate new encounters, his approach to members of the other sex may sometimes lack delicacy.
You may be characterized by strong sensual and affectionate urges which drive you to seek pleasure. Tommy’s need for romantic fulfillment may compel them to marry, because they also seek the legal and social legitimacy the institution of marriage confers on an emotional bond. Indeed, the household is liable to be prosperous and even opulent, as if this offered further evidence that Tommy had indeed achieved success. However, privately, Tommy might be less committed to certain obligations and duties. At worst, Tommy might deny the commitments that their optimism and expansiveness made them rush into too soon. If this were to be the case, the outward image of the couple’s success (wealth and comfort, etc.) would only be a façade which compensated for its emotional impoverishment and failure. Sooner or later, this hypocrisy might provoke a full-blown conflict. A second possibility is that a psychic incompatibility may gradually take root, pitting Tommy’s romantic nature against the prerogatives of their career.
Tommyinnit has an ardent and amorous character, and their relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, Tommy is often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, their love life may be subject to some instability. Tommy is generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate them. Their greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although Tommy merges their ego entirely into the couple, they are likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If their partner charms and captivates them long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with Tommy; otherwise, Tommy is likely to yield to their need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for them.
Midlife may be a turning point for Tommy from this point of view. Their contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. Their behavior enables them to remain aloof, to commit themselves only halfway without consciously admitting it to themselves, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when they lose interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps Tommy from forming stable relationships.
Indeed, Tommy is tormented by the struggle between their undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, their romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by their conviction that their partner has become an obstacle to their individual progress. Because Tommy thinks of love as a restraint, they may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, Tommy will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, Tommy is also likely to meet “the one” who inspires them to initiate a change in their behavior.
Mental and Intellect:
Tommyinnit is somewhat plodding but realistic and pragmatic. Because Tommyinnit is chiefly preoccupied with the practical aspects of things, Tommyinnit is especially apt to develop more efficient production concepts. Although Tommyinnit’s good judgment and common sense provide Tommyinnit with an excellent ability to handle the tangible world (Tommyinnit is certainly clever, and can quickly assess the tangible value of things), Tommyinnit’s thought processes might be relatively impervious to abstract concepts and spiritual awakenings.
Tommy does not express his thoughts and ideas smoothly or easily. He tends to be subjective, seeking to know himself better through a process of introversion.