If you want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. You may have perfectionism, a tendency to hyperfocus on minutiae, over intellectualization, and comfort with a constant state of worry.

Rebecca Campbell often feels a conflict between her desire for social and professional success, and her need for a stable, secure domestic life. She is deeply committed to both ideas, but sometimes finds it difficult to reconcile their schedules and demands on her. Sometimes it feels as though she will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy her if she neglects her most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to her to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if she sacrifices her domestic life, she is only trying to fool herself. She should accept the fact that her domestic life is the true basis and foundation of her development. All her career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Rebecca Campbell often has aspirations that run beyond the practical demands of life. This can sometimes lead to her being too delicate, and she is resistant to the idea of living in the real world. She prefers to escape into her fantasies, where she feels like she is getting more out of life than she would if she were to focus on the practicalities. Unfortunately, she often attracts people who are not honest, and who are likely to take advantage of her.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the good things in your life and all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy them more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.