If Parker McCollum really wants to improve and transform himself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution:
– his shallowness
– his lack of sincerity
– his indifference
– his frivolity
– his fear of commitment

Parker McCollum may experience discord in relationships. Although Parker is friendly and outgoing and commits Parker to friendships and partnerships, Parker often finds it difficult to balance Parker’s own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs.

To understand and overcome this problem, Parker should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If Parker succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship Parker and Parker’s partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing Parker McCollum must do is learn to say no. Once Parker McCollum are capable of saying no to others, Parker McCollum can say yes to life. Parker McCollum must develop Parker McCollum’s awareness of all the things Parker McCollum love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes Parker McCollum hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support Parker McCollum, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of Parker McCollum’s personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when Parker McCollum were helpless may be obstacles to Parker McCollum’s evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent Parker McCollum from daring to confront challenges Parker McCollum would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons Parker McCollum yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to Parker McCollum that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of Parker McCollum’s identity. However, the more often Parker McCollum reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware Parker McCollum become of Parker McCollum’s true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced Parker McCollum’s pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for Parker McCollum to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside Parker McCollum that claims Parker McCollum don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of Parker McCollum could undermine Parker McCollum’s vitality and force Parker McCollum to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, Parker McCollum limit Parker McCollum’s power to bring about a positive change in Parker McCollum or Parker McCollum’s life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free Parker McCollum, the first step is to free Parker McCollum from the fears which prevent Parker McCollum from taking full advantage of life. Parker McCollum can succeed if Parker McCollum arrange a relaxed, positive environment for Parker McCollum, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which Parker McCollum can practice relaxation exercises.