If you really want Ned Fulmer to improve and transform himself, the first step is for him to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution: – his shallowness – his lack of sincerity – his indifference – his frivolity – his fear of commitment
Ned Fulmer may experience discord in relationships. Although Ned Fulmer is friendly and outgoing and commits himself to friendships and partnerships, Ned Fulmer often finds it difficult to balance his own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs.
To understand and overcome this problem, Ned Fulmer should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If Ned Fulmer succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship Ned Fulmer and Ned Fulmer’s partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.