Mary Steenburgen experiences her inner life as a process of growth and maturation, nurtured by her involvement with others and the positive and negative encounters this generates.
Mary Steenburgen leads a life which is open to the outside world. Her personal consciousness is forged by the heat of outer events. She is inclined to adopt the most objective viewpoint possible to be pragmatic and perhaps even materialistic.
Mary Steenburgen, while you contribute to important social causes or collective ideals, tends to keep her individual identity intact. For this reason, although she may become personally involved in social affairs, she is likely to resist any project she will be unable to lead herself, according to her own individual direction. She tends to identify herself with an activity with social implications and attempt to know herself through this activity.
The thoughts, intuition, and perceptions that predominate in Mary Steenburgen’s psyche are open, curious, and optimistic. She is eager to participate in everything that is happening around her and her affections are lively and spontaneous. However, her intellectual nature may sometimes lead her to be more sensual than sexual. In a partner, she would seek a spiritual or artistic source of inspiration. While she may be light-hearted, Mary Steenburgen is never indifferent to the realities of life or the emotions of others.
Mary Steenburgen struggles to get into harmony with the physical world and the limitations and restraints it places upon her. Idealistic, she tends to be somewhat disconnected from practical considerations, and barely pays any attention to material things like food, money, her surroundings, and so on. She tends to be footloose and fancy-free, oblivious to the necessities of survival in the physical world, until her lack of material resources – an issue to which she usually grants no importance – becomes an emergency. This feeling of being out of touch with material things and the physical dimension of reality may sometimes lead her to see herself as unfit for this world. She may think she cannot attach herself to anything that would sustain her efforts at self-expression. However, her impractical nature offers many positive aspects. She sees life’s possibilities as limitless. She is apt to develop her imagination or pursue a spiritual quest in order to transcend the material world.
You work hard to understand the feelings of others. But your lack of empathy and compassion is simply a reflection of your own difficulty in understanding your own feelings and emotional needs. You are not insensitive, but you are baffled by your own emotions. You see the emotional world as a foreign territory, perhaps fraught with hidden dangers. Becoming familiar with it would present more drawbacks than advantages. As a result, you may appear to be hard or aloof. You might struggle to establish a rewarding relationship, as you seek special individuals to bond with. If you were able to accept and understand your own emotions, you would have an easier time grappling with the feelings of others. You have a strong desire for emotional independence, and might have trouble seeing other people’s emotional needs. You might even be the first to deny that such needs are real. As a result, your dependency on others is unconscious. Because it is seen as such a threat, it is repressed. Actually, although you offer conscious resistance to anyone who tries to lure you out of your emotional bubble, you are always making timid, half-conscious forays into the world of feelings, because your loneliness and fear are so unbearable.