If you want to improve your life, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These can be things like being too cool and distant, not caring about others, being rigid, needing complete control, and being afraid of your emotions.

Although Mary O’Neill does not expend a great deal of physical or mental energy, she has a remarkable ability to attract, accumulate, and manage wealth and earthly goods. She is quite capable of working with endurance and persistence, but her special qualities of organization, inspiration, and inspiration are what enable her to make her work as profitable as possible. Although the drawbacks of her personality may make her plod through life in a somewhat conservative and conventional way, her attachment to material and physical comfort can often be transcended and evolve in a more spiritual direction.

The first thing you must do to gain self-assurance is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.