If Marcus Dobre really wants to improve and transform himself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution:
– his excessive independence
– his fear of commitment
– his eccentricity
– his instability
– his fear of intimacy

Marcus Dobre loathes contradiction. Although he has vast reserves of mental and intellectual concentration, he sometimes tends to be dogmatic or absolutist. His rigid mindset denotes a certain adaptive difficulty.

As we suggested earlier, Marcus Dobre is endowed with great sensitivity and has profound aspirations, especially romantic ones. Nevertheless, his spirit is sometimes too delicate for him to have armored and structured himself for the constraints of life out there in the real world. Moreover, he sees little point in devoting himself to fulfilling the demands of practical reality, which strike him as rather futile and empty. His escapes into his fantasy world give him the illusion of a much greater reward. He tends to gloss over his vision of other people, and when they reveal their imperfections and incompetence, he feels guilty for them and suffers from his own vulnerability and illusions. He would do well to try to be more selective about the people he associates with; when he is moving in a dream world, he attracts the kind of dishonest people who are likely to take advantage of him.

Marcus is sensitive and sometimes impressionable. This can be a productive and creative factor, but if he does not manage to control his emotionalism, it can also hamper his adaptation to the realities of life. Were that to be the case, his ability to find happiness within himself could gradually cut him off from his environment. He must thus work on detaching himself from his emotions and getting a handle on his sensitivity. His intuitive ability to perceive other people’s inner energies could predestine him for a socially oriented career. As a caregiver, healer, helper, guide, or advisor, he could succeed in teaching, psychology or psychiatry, or social work.

To trust Marcus Dobre better and gain self-assurance, the first thing Marcus Dobre must do is learn to say no. Once Marcus Dobre is capable of saying no to others, Marcus Dobre can say yes to life. Marcus Dobre must develop Marcus Dobre’s awareness of all the things Marcus Dobre loves and feel positive about, as well as all the changes Marcus Dobre hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support Marcus Dobre, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of Marcus Dobre’s personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when Marcus Dobre was helpless may be obstacles to Marcus Dobre’s evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent Marcus Dobre from daring to confront challenges Marcus Dobre would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons Marcus Dobre yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to Marcus Dobre that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of Marcus Dobre’s identity. However, the more often Marcus Dobre reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware Marcus Dobre become of Marcus Dobre’s true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced Marcus Dobre’s pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for Marcus Dobre to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside Marcus Dobre that claims Marcus Dobre don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of Marcus Dobre could undermine Marcus Dobre’s vitality and force Marcus Dobre to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, Marcus Dobre limit Marcus Dobre’s power to bring about a positive change in Marcus Dobre or Marcus Dobre’s life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free Marcus Dobre, the first step is to free Marcus Dobre from the fears which prevent Marcus Dobre from taking full advantage of life. Marcus Dobre can succeed if Marcus Dobre arrange a relaxed, positive environment for Marcus Dobre, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which Marcus Dobre can practice relaxation exercises.