If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These are your excessive independence, your fear of commitment, your eccentricity, your instability, and your fear of intimacy.

Harley Haisley sometimes senses a conflict between his desire for social and professional success and his need for a stable, secure domestic life. He is deeply committed to both ideas and does not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on him. Sometimes it feels as though he will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy him if he has neglected his most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to him to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if he merely sacrifices his domestic life, he is only trying to fool himself. He should accept the fact that his domestic life is the true basis and foundation of his development. All his career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Harley Haisley has a Discord in relationships. Although he is friendly and outgoing and commits himself to friendships and partnerships, he often finds it difficult to balance his own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, he should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If he succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship he and his partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Harley Haisley has a good balance between his need for movement and his tendency to be sedentary. He is just as likely to adapt to situations which require outbursts of initiative as to those which demand patience and perseverance. As we suggested earlier, Harley Haisley is endowed with great sensitivity and has profound aspirations, especially romantic ones. Nevertheless, his spirit is sometimes too delicate for him to have armored and structured himself for the constraints of life out there in the real world. Moreover, he sees little point in devoting himself to fulfilling the demands of practical reality, which strike him as rather futile and empty. His escapes into his fantasy world give him the illusion of a much greater reward. He tends to gloss over his vision of other people, and when they reveal their imperfections and incompetence, he feels guilty for them and suffers from his own vulnerability and illusions. Harley Haisley would do well to try to be more selective about the people he associates with; when he is moving in a dream world, he attracts the kind of dishonest people who are likely to take advantage of him.