Darren Middleton observes that consciousness and the ideal of self are intimately connected. He writes, “The ideal of self is not only the product of our social environment but also emerges from our understanding of ourselves as physical, mental and spiritual beings.”
Darren Middleton is searching for stability; he wants to find a firm, unchanging structure for his life. But his efforts to achieve this ideal are often vain, because unconsciously, he is also inhabited by the opposite desire. Every time he reaches what he believes to be a good balance, he realizes he wants something entirely different. He would do well to become aware that the concepts of stability and balance are difficult to apply to life.
Darren has a paternal complex and, as a result, some trouble finding his identity. Perhaps his father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during his childhood, which deprived him of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because he might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, he was forced to protect himself against negative influences and find his own system in order to grow and feel secure.
Although this system was quite useful to him as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with his evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber his mind or inhibit his developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for him to assert himself, and he tends to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because his authoritarian urges are mainly directed at himself rather than others, he sometimes feels guilty about his behavior. He judges himself severely, and sometimes punishes himself by setting difficult tasks for himself. Gradually, he should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.
Darren Middleton has a personality and behavior liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling his psyche. Because his sensitivity is in conflict with his determination, his attitude and performance may sometimes be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, he has the feeling he has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging his yearnings and fulfilling his ambitions. His unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of his conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage his plans. In his relationships, the images he builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, might also annoy him. He could find it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Darren Middleton has great strength of character. His courage and endurance enable him to accomplish even extremely arduous tasks. Although he sometimes behaves impulsively, he generally knows how to plan out an effective strategy, and, as a result, he reaches his goals without meeting any major obstacles. His forcefulness gives him certain leadership skills, which he may implement to creative and constructive ends.
Darren has a fairly strong-willed character, and he is mindful of going about his purposes with maximum efficiency. When he relates to other people, he sometimes has trouble expressing his emotions, but he does have a lively sensitivity and is capable of lasting passion. As he grows older, he is quite likely to come into his own and acquire great intellectual and spiritual wisdom. His honesty, integrity, and sense of duty will win him recognition and appreciation. Passing time will be a very important factor in his destiny, and his greatest accomplishments will guarantee him stability and prosperity. Although he is not especially enterprising, he will move into a high career position as soon as he feels sure of his abilities.
DarrenMiddleton has a desire to devote himself to the creation of a mild and harmonious emotional climate, but he sometimes encounters friction with others. His vision of other people is sometimes clouded by feelings of insecurity, and his need to obtain acceptance at any price may sometimes drive him to make too many concessions or compromises.
Darren Middleton is a free thinker and individualist who is convinced that his most precious basic values are freedom and independence. He has thrown off what he perceives as the burden of the convention and customs of his social class and adopted an innovative lifestyle. His passionate convictions, bordering on proselytism, sometimes trouble his relationships, as he may be an uncompromising partner. He should learn to recognize his own limitations and accept the responsibilities he has to other people or he is liable to find himself continually embroiled in conflicting relationships.
Darren Middleton has good adaptation and sensitivity. He is just as likely to adapt to situations which require outbursts of initiative as to those which demand patience and perseverance.
Darren Middleton has a personality which is sometimes agitated but straightforward. Unconscious feelings of insecurity compel him to act and sometimes to seek the admiration of others. As a result, he is unable to bear idleness and routine, and he is in search of perpetual excitement. His reactions to others are highly individual and depend on the mood he is in at any given moment. A person of decision, a businessperson or an athlete, he often personifies boldness and impetuosity. His love life is liable to be fiery, as it obeys the imperatives of his desire for freedom and independence, and his need for change.
Darren has a lively, agile, and sensitive intellect. However, he does not always avail himself of it and may be confused or irrational in some situations. Although he enjoys playing with words, ideas, and concepts, his thought sometimes lacks discipline and structure. He is fairly preoccupied with details and may tend to waste his nervous and mental energy in futile verbal outpourings. Moreover, his feelings sometimes blur his objective vision of phenomena and people, which may cause him to make errors in judgment.
Darren Middleton is optimistic and happy to be alive. He is cheerful, expansive, and pleasant to have around. He is extremely generous (sometimes to a fault!) and gives of himself and his belongings unstintingly. This positive psychological outlook is the result of a happy childhood and especially an extremely beneficial maternal influence in infancy. Darren is quite likely to be a professional success; his vision of the world is perfectly adapted to prevailing opinion, and his urges and desires for personal expansion usually elicit a positive reaction from society. By old age, his good reputation and prominence may have earned him fame.
Darren Middleton has a good balance between his need for movement and his tendency to be sedentary. He is just as likely to adapt to situations which require outbursts of initiative as to those which demand patience and perseverance. Out of either shyness or caution, he hides and protects his sensitivity behind a fairly cool, aloof exterior. He is fairly conservative, respectful of tradition and convention, and likes to follow the rules. Because he needs stability to alleviate his feelings of frustration and sometimes emotional dependency, he has great faith in contracts which seal relationships. His ties to his past are fairly strong. They are a source of reassurance and safety, because his parents likely gave a lot to him.
Darren has a very sensitive and irrepressible imagination, which sometimes causes him trouble distinguishing dreams from reality. Although his imagination can be an abundant source of inspiration for creative or spiritual evolution, it tends to be less helpful and positive in matters that concern earning a decent living out in the real world. In a relationship, Darren is extremely romantic and does not always see others the way they really are. He has elegant tastes and art and beauty are one of his chief pleasures in life.
Darren Middleton has a sensitivity and emotions are sometimes in conflict with his instincts. This inner discord makes him a fairly complicated relationship partner, and his behavior sometimes strikes others as mysterious or baffling. He is liable to switch from one attitude to the opposite. Sexuality is an important part of his life, and his relationships are most often motivated by his desires. Nevertheless, due to his unconscious inner battle, he does not often succeed in reconciling and fulfilling his emotional and sexual needs. Due to the strength of his instincts, passion may overwhelm him and drag him into situations he cannot always control, which intermingle erotic ecstasy and anguish, guilt, and aggressiveness.
Darren Middleton has written extensively on love and sensuality. He has written about the physical and emotional aspects of love, and how to create a loving and sensual relationship.
Darren tries to express his affections in the most graceful and harmonious way possible. Indeed, he has an innate sense of harmony and strives for a love relationship characterized by balance and perfection. He tends to idealize both his partner and the institution of marriage. Any disillusionment he encounters in the pursuit of his ideal may be experienced as a frustration. He does not always ply his powers of seduction skillfully.
Darren's birth chart indicates an emotional function which is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of his emotional urges and somewhat wary of his feelings, he tries to rid himself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.
Darren has a delicate balance between gentle and ardent, understanding and excessive, psychic forces. In his love life, his need to be loved and protected opposes his taste for independence; his need for harmony is always betrayed by the strength of his urges and affects. The choice of the right mate, although crucial to his well-being, will be extremely difficult.
Darren's love affairs are usually endowed with an aura of artistic talent and sophistication, giving them a dramatic quality. However, despite the odd and exciting circumstances which surround his encounters, the liaison generally loses its mystery and settles into being a fairly conventional social arrangement.
Darren Middleton has the fiery, importunate nature of a fervent lover. Indeed, affairs of the heart are one of his main purposes in life. His personal charm and magnetism give him nearly irresistible powers of seduction, and nearly every one of his well-aimed attempts at conquest leads to the fulfillment and satisfaction of his desires. Due to his impulsiveness and impatience to initiate new encounters, his approach to potential partners may sometimes lack delicacy.
Darren Middleton has an ardent and amorous character, and his relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, he is often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, his love life may be subject to some instability. He is generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate him. His greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although he merges his ego entirely into the couple, he is likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If his partner charms and captivates him long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with him; otherwise, he is likely to yield to his need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for him.
Midlife may be a turning point for him from this point of view. His contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. His behavior enables him to remain aloof, to commit himself only halfway without consciously admitting it to himself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when he loses interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps him from forming stable relationships. Indeed, he is tormented by the struggle between his undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, his romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by his conviction that his partner has become an obstacle to his individual progress. Because he thinks of love as a restraint, he may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, he will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, he is also likely to meet “the one” who inspires him to initiate a change in his behavior.
Darren Middleton has a high mental and intellect.
Darren Middleton has a good mental aptitudes making him especially good at comparing, evaluating, and weighing information. This intellectual modus operandi has enabled him to develop an innate sense of values, both artistic and ethical, as well as a remarkable ability to relate to other people. His appreciative, conciliatory attitude makes him a skillful diplomat able to untangle conflict situations deftly and with ease. In other situations, his artistic spirit is sensitive to a wide variety of harmonies.
Darren expresses his thoughts and ideas in direct, spontaneous outbursts. He is fairly extroverted and eager to discover and understand the outer world. An idealist, he looks forward to a bright future but is sometimes subjective and reckless.
Darren Middleton has a structured mind and penetrating intelligence, but his thought processes tend to be somewhat plodding. This slow pace may be the consequence of some failure or humiliation during his formative years. He is fairly inhibited and pessimistic and tends to doubt in himself and his intellectual skills despite his undeniable gifts as a thinker. He should become aware that his thought patterns and habits are the sign that he is on the brink of a really big breakthrough which will give him an understanding of the complexity of things and phenomena; however, it will take time and effort.
His mind is deep and accurate and is attracted by the essence of things and their fundamental structure. As a result, he is particularly suited to the study of mathematics, architecture, engineering, or perhaps even politics. His contribution to society will probably be most lasting and effective in the field of knowledge and expertise. Whatever career he chooses, he should learn to work alone, because he tends to be uncomfortable in some surroundings.
He will also have to learn to conquer his impatience, because he tends to waste time agonizing over deadlines and schedules. Moreover, a lack of self-confidence could cause him to be fairly conventional and respectful of time-honored ways. Instead, he should find the courage to question his convictions.
Darren Middleton has a definite taste for expression and communication. He cannot survive without giving voice to his thoughts and speaking to other people. He delights in his own power to persuade, captivate, and sway an audience with his words.
Especially attracted to anything new and original, he immediately grasps the utility and value of the latest technology or philosophy, no matter how complicated it may be, and has a knack for explaining it to the uninitiated and popularizing it. Because he is fairly high strung, he may have trouble concentrating on a single subject for very long, unless it is a source of intellectual fascination or discovery. He may have to make some effort to overcome this inconsistency.
His open-mindedness offers him creativity, which is a valuable commodity in many occupations: teaching, communications, advertising, etc. Regardless of the career he chooses, his personal development will involve intellectual activity and progress.