If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution.
Your perfectionism, tendency to hyperfocus on minutiae, over intellectualization, and comfort with a constant state of worry may be holding you back. It’s important to become aware of these weaknesses so you can start working on changing them.
You sometimes sense a conflict between your desire for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are deeply committed to both ideas and do not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on you. Sometimes it feels as though you will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy you if you have neglected your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you are only trying to fool yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.
Often Brandi Burnside is too tense and irritable to stick to a task for long. She is easily bored and distracted, and her bouts of inattention usually keeps her from engaging in any action totally. She tends to start a multitude of projects, but rarely finishes them, because meanwhile she has started some new enterprises. It might be advisable for her to learn to coordinate her energies and actions, if she wants to avoid exhausting her vitality.
Brandi Burnside is a person who has developed a fairly radical philosophy which challenges traditional systems of knowledge. In fact, many people shun her as an eccentric trying to spread subversive ideas. She is fairly nervous and impatient and finds it difficult to concentrate on one subject for very long. As a result, she does not always take the time to express her ideas in a practical or tangible way. However, she is fascinated by novelty and is likely to find the field of communications most rewarding for the total freedom it gives to her need for expression and her innovative, revolutionary spirit. Gradually, as she learns to control her intellectual and nervous energies, she will be able to express her innovative ideas about traditional structures and lifestyles in a more effective way. Her ability to channel her energies and lead groups of followers into unexplored ideological territory will improve.
To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.