If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding back your evolution. These may be your preference for illusion, your hypersensitivity, your emotionalism, your lack of self-confidence, and your guilt.

Arabella Chi often experiences discord in relationships. Although she is friendly and outgoing and commits herself to friendships and partnerships, she often finds it difficult to balance her own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, she should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If she succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship she and her partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Arabella Chi has deeply anchored emotional needs. Invariably, she tries to revive these sensations from her personal history, clinging to the security provided by the repetition of a feeling which produced a positive effect in the past. Her desire for possession (tangible or emotional) could become a problem, because she may fixate on an object which is negative or bad for her. She will do well to make a conscious effort to overcome this unconscious negative conditioning which may be related to her childhood.

Arabella Chi tends to be rigid in relationships. In some extreme cases, she may be jealous. Because she has a great deal of emotional impact on the other, she sometimes feels invulnerable to any outside influence and will struggle with reexamining her own attitude.