If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution: your dependency on other people, your uncertainty, your sentimentalism, and your weakness for comfort.

Although it sometimes seems easier to me to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if I merely sacrifice my domestic life, I am only trying to fool myself. I should accept the fact that my domestic life is the true basis and foundation of my development. All my career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Melinda Dillon experiences discord in relationships. Although she is friendly and outgoing and commits herself to friendships and partnerships, she often finds it difficult to balance her own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, she should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If she succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship she and her partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Melinda Dillon has deeply anchored emotional needs. Invariably, she tries to revive these sensations from her personal history, clinging to the security provided by the repetition of a feeling which produced a positive effect in the past. Her desire for possession (tangible or emotional) could become a problem, because she may fixate on an object which is negative or bad for her. She will do well to make a conscious effort to overcome this unconscious negative conditioning which may be related to her childhood.

Melinda Dillon hates contradiction. Although she has vast reserves of mental and intellectual concentration, she sometimes tends to be dogmatic or absolutist. Her rigid mindset denotes a certain adaptive difficulty.