Malalai Joya’s confidence in herself sometimes falters, and she might try to compensate for this weakness by insisting on her authority over others. With the people she is emotionally committed to, the same nagging feelings of insecurity prevent her from expressing her generosity and love fully; her extreme independence sometimes hides an inability to abandon herself and a lack of assurance.
You have a strong paternal complex and, as a result, some trouble finding your identity. Perhaps your father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during your childhood, which deprived you of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because you might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, you were forced to protect yourself against negative influences and find your own system in order to grow and feel secure. Although this system was quite useful to you as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with your evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber your mind or inhibit your developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for you to assert yourself, and you tend to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because your authoritarian urges are mainly directed at yourself rather than others, you sometimes feel guilty about your behavior. You judge yourself severely, and sometimes punishes yourself by setting difficult tasks for yourself. Gradually, you should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.
Malalai Joya’s personality and behavior are liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling her psyche. Because her sensitivity is in conflict with her determination, her attitude and performance may sometimes be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, she has the feeling she has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging her yearnings and fulfilling her ambitions. Her unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of her conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage her plans. In her relationships, the images she builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, might also annoy her. She could find it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Malalai Joya is vigorous and energetic. She has an immense need to assert her individuality, and her attitudes and actions are actually motivated by an unconscious desire for power. She puzzles the people close to her, who cannot understand whether her behavior is the result of pure selfishness or merely of an excess of energy. Malalai Joya is lively, alert, and determined, but she is too easily distracted from goals by futile competition or opportunities to exhibit her power. She has a short temper and must learn to control her impulsiveness, which might expose her to a great deal of unnecessary conflict.
Malalai Joya has a great potential for creative, constructive accomplishments; however, it is sometimes difficult for her to gain access to this part of herself. She is confident in herself and life but sometimes tends to be nonchalant. She sometimes needs a little stimulation to get herself rolling and take some initiative. Her optimism and inner certainty do not always drive her to give her utmost efforts to achieve a goal. The communications skills she possesses are an advantage as well as a handicap. She makes use of her theatrical gifts, convincing eloquence, and ability to listen. The best careers for her would be teaching, communications, philosophy, the legal profession, theater, and public relations.
Malalai Joya regards physical and mental freedom as vital to her life. Her youth and home may have been of the rootless, wandering type, which could have given her a taste for movement and independence. She needs to be aware that her life has a purpose and hunt for it in various belief systems, both traditional and new age. In fact, she has an unmistakable gift for philosophy. The faraway appeals to her, and travel is likely to be an important aspect of her life.
Malalai Joya maintains strong ties with her past, and it often seems difficult for her to open her heart to new people. Her love affairs might exist on the surface level, because her lust and sensual desire rarely turn into a need to understand, protect, and care for the other. Moreover, it is difficult for her to meet partners who combine the ideals of the tender parent and the great lover.
Malalai Joya has a sensitive nature. Although she may sometimes have trouble controlling her emotional reactions, they are nevertheless a source of vital energy for a constructive passion and may make an extremely positive contribution to her career. In relations with other people, Malalai Joya is quite friendly; she willingly reaches out to people and knows how to listen to their desires and their problems.
You are an expansive, communicative, and generous associate. Indeed, some people find you generous almost to a fault! You give of yourself and your resources unstintingly. Paradoxically, there are times when you are self-focused. You react instinctively, without taking the trouble to analyze a given situation, and are prone to misjudge. As a result, your everyday life may be riddled with a whole variety of practical problems. Indeed, you sense a conflict between your social life and your family and will sometimes find it hard to fulfill yourself in both spheres at the same time. Your attitude toward your private life may inhibit your ambitions for social or career expansion; at worst, society (the law) may impinge on your private life. You should be careful not to project your personal problems onto your partner. If, instead, the two of you analyzed the problem, you might be able to find opportunities to resolve it together.
Malalai Joya has a sensual and affectionate nature which is sensitive to physical attraction. This type of sensitivity, combined with her productive urges, may be expressed in an artistic form. As for her feelings, they are usually slow to take root. But once she is conquered by love, she forms a deep and lasting bond. Although she is loyal, she may also display a tendency to be somewhat possessive.
Malalai Joya’s birth chart indicates that she has an emotional function that is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of her emotional urges and somewhat wary of her feelings, she tries to rid herself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.
Malalai Joya glows with a youthful simplicity and dewy freshness that make her very endearing. Quite sensitive to physical attraction, she loves blithely and lustily. Because she needs to feel free and independent, a possessive partner would be a bad match for her. Even when committed, she will cling to her taste for freedom and will refuse all obligations and monotony.
Malalai Joya holds the love of her life in high regard. But in reality, she is easily dazzled by people who soon turn out to be pretentious and proud, full of self-importance and with little concern for her feelings. If she wants to change this pattern of failed relationships, she must realize that her own vanity is a factor. She would also do well to learn that pride and love don’t go together.
You are hypersensitive and tend to relive the anxieties, apprehensions, and romantic absolutes of your first love relationships, which occurred around the ages of 13-14 years or 20-21 years. You are exquisitely sensitive, but almost completely barricaded behind a layer of aloofness. You will not settle for anything less than eternal commitment, total harmony, and absolute loyalty. You are sometimes presumed to be cold, even by those close to her. You usually hide your emotional reactions or do not even allow them to reach the level of your consciousness, in an effort to protect your sensitivity, which you see as your weak point. You are fairly vulnerable, even in the intimacy of a stable and established relationship. Usually, you will disguise your strong feelings as a kind of possessiveness or even jealousy. Certain misfortunes may arouse a negative emotional state inside you, and you feel unworthy of the love which is lavished on you. This psychological prohibition which rules over all of your desires and affects should loosen with the passage of time; likewise, your fear of approaching the other will diminish. As a result, the second part of your romantic life will be more rewarding. In any case, if you want to experience a harmonious love relationship and gratify yourself emotionally, the defense mechanisms you have elaborated to make yourself inaccessible to others will have to be dismantled.
Malalai Joya is an intuitive thinker. She does not reason things out through a long, articulate, logical discourse; instead, she seize the visions or insights that spontaneously flash into her consciousness. She thus has a form of immediate knowledge of various phenomena which is based neither on reasoning nor on any elaborate thought process or method. As a result, if she is an extrovert, she will possess an inventive, innovative spirit gifted for improvisation. If she is an introvert, her mind will be an abundant source of personal inner truths.
Malalai Joya thinks carefully before she expresses her ideas or thoughts, preferring to mull things over in her own head before coming up with a solution. She’s relatively introverted, preferring to take things slow and assess the situation before she makes a decision. Because she tends to distrust conventional wisdom, her opinion is usually highly personal.
Malalai Joya’s intellect and wit are sometimes slowed down because she is oriented inward. She seldom tries to communicate with others for the simple pleasure of doing so. Indeed, she sometimes feels misunderstood. Moreover, it seems difficult for her to express the complexity of her inner perceptions.
She has a definite taste for expression and communication. She cannot survive without giving voice to her thoughts and speaking to other people. She delights in her own power to persuade, captivate, and sway an audience with her words. Especially attracted to anything new and original, she immediately grasps the utility and value of the latest technology or philosophy, no matter how complicated it may be and has a knack for explaining it to the uninitiated and popularizing it. Because she is fairly high strung, she may have trouble concentrating on a single subject for very long, unless it is a source of intellectual fascination or discovery. She may have to make some effort to overcome this inconsistency. Her open-mindedness gives her creativity, which is a valuable commodity in many occupations: teaching, communications, advertising, etc. Regardless of the career she chooses, her personal development will involve intellectual activity and progress.
Malalai Joya has a great deal of intuition but sometimes has problems organizing her thought processes and making an intellectual commitment. The concepts of boundary and structure are inimical to her mind, which is open and all-encompassing, premonitory, and web-like. Her thoughts may be verbally indeterminate, vague, and ill defined. She tends to understand or sense things globally, without always noticing their component parts. Usually, she can’t see the trees for the forest. In daily life, although her perceptions are lively and subtle, she may display a kind of absent-mindedness, out of a fear of annoying people with her shrewdness or of fighting to assert herself. Her imagination sometimes escapes from the confines of logic, cringing from a confrontation with reality. This unwillingness to face the real world may cause relationship or career challenges.
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