Consciousness and The Ideal of Self:
Lilia Buckingham is searching for stability; she wants to find a firm, unchanging structure for her life. But her efforts to achieve this ideal are often vain, because unconsciously, she is also inhabited by the opposite desire. Every time she reaches what she believes to be a good balance, she realizes she wants something entirely different. She would do well to become aware that the concepts of stability and balance are difficult to apply to life. By definition, life is movement, change, and perpetual instability.
Lilia Buckingham’s personality and behavior are liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling her psyche. Because her sensitivity is in conflict with her determination, her attitude and performance may be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, she has the feeling she has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging her yearnings and fulfilling her ambitions. Her unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of her conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage her plans. In her relationships, the images she builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, also grates on her nerves. She finds it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Lilia Buckingham is extremely vigorous and energetic and has an immense need to assert her individuality. Her attitudes and actions are actually motivated by an unconscious desire for power. They puzzle the people close to her, who cannot understand whether her behavior is the result of pure selfishness or merely of an excess of energy. Lilia Buckingham is lively, alert, and determined, but she is too easily distracted from goals by futile competition or opportunities to exhibit her power. Lilia Buckingham has a short temper and must learn to control her impulsiveness, which might expose her to a great deal of unnecessary conflict.
Lilia Buckingham generally tends to be motivated by activities which apply to social needs. Lilia Buckingham tends to give the best of herself in difficult situations which require crucial choices. Lilia Buckingham’s ability to concentrate and her gift for solving problems by deductive reasoning are her chief resources in crisis situations or at turning points in her life.
Adaptation and Sensitivity:
Mild and sensitive, Lilia Buckingham is deeply human. Lilia Buckingham is sociable and sincerely devoted to others. Lilia Buckingham’s mother or a mother-figure had a strong influence on Lilia Buckingham’s psyche, and Lilia Buckingham’s childhood was an important time in Lilia Buckingham’s life. Lilia Buckingham still identifies with vivid childhood memories; they are the basis for Lilia Buckingham’s reveries, for Lilia Buckingham’s extreme sensitivity, and for habits which Lilia Buckingham may be slow to break. However, Lilia Buckingham will thrive in the shelter of a family setting, soothed by the presence of a spouse and children. Lilia Buckingham is fond of security and routine; being somewhat impressionable and anxious, Lilia Buckingham may have trouble adjusting to situations which are unfamiliar.
Lilia Buckingham has a sensitive and affectionate nature. She seeks tenderness and gentleness more than passion. Her relationships with others are smooth and pleasant, and she has a natural sense of tact and social grace.
Lilia Buckingham has a sensitive personality. She may jump to conclusions, which could disrupt relationships, as well as career plans. She is subject to cyclical energy flows and goes from periods of feverish activity to periods of withdrawal and introspection. The aggressive element in her behavior may be explained by emotional problems she may have experienced in infancy: her mother, or a mother figure, may have had an energetic and volatile personality.
Lilia Buckingham’s sensitivity and emotions are sometimes in conflict with her instincts. This inner discord makes her a fairly complicated relationship partner, and her behavior sometimes strikes others as mysterious or baffling. She is liable to switch from one attitude to the opposite. Sexuality is an important part of her life, and her relationships are most often motivated by her desires. Nevertheless, due to her unconscious inner battle, she does not often succeed in reconciling and fulfilling her emotional and sexual needs. Due to the strength of her instincts, passion may overwhelm her and drag her into situations she cannot always control, which intermingle erotic ecstasy and anguish, guilt, and aggressiveness.
Love and Sensuality:
Lilia Buckingham’s sensitivity may sometimes overwhelm her partners, and her compassion for the other is profound. She readily sacrifices her own interest to others, to provide help and assistance. A romantic as well as an idealist, she sometimes lacks discernment in the choice of her partners. She is fairly confused and evasive and has trouble expressing her feelings clearly. Nevertheless, she is capable of devoting herself entirely to the person she loves. She has a tendency to daydream and become lost in herself.
Lilia Buckingham’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is expressed in a direct and fairly impulsive way. She enjoys reaching out to other people and making discoveries. An eternal teenager with her gaze riveted on the future, she is imbued with an eminently subjective and personal idealism.
According to the aforesaid, it appears that Lilia Buckingham is more or less torn between two different sides of her nature. Her desire to impress conflicts with her attachment to the nest; her social ambitions contradict her need for security; and her natural self-focus is hard to reconcile with her altruism. She is likely to marry a prominent person – one she can be proud of. Her own social position may disappoint her, but her family will give her satisfactions she missed out on.
Disillusioned by love, Lilia Buckingham takes pleasure in a kind of self-denial or self-sacrifice that occasionally borders on masochism. But she knows that before she can be loved by someone else, she’s got to learn to love herself. Only a relationship based on mutual respect and esteem can bring her the emotional fulfillment she seeks. A second marriage or relationship with an older partner should help her to restore the balance that was largely lost in her early relationships.
From the outside, Lilia Buckingham seems to be detached and aloof, but on the inside she is an extremely complex individual, full of contradictions. Because she sometimes feels vulnerable emotionally, she tries to control not only her own feelings and urges, but may also strive to manipulate those of her partners. She aspires to a profound and enduring spiritual unity, but at the same time, the idea of abandoning herself and yielding to the other terrifies her. This anguish may be a source of rather extreme behavior patterns and a somewhat self-focused attitude which could damage the relationship. Because she is guarded and somewhat secretive, she tends to be suspicious and is especially uneasy about spontaneous intimacy, although she is fascinated by sexuality. Within the privacy of the couple, she will not express her feelings unless she is subject to some tension. Life may be peppered with frequent crises and feuds, arguments and spats which usually act as erotic provocation. This derivation of eroticism from anxiety tends to be one of the fundamental characteristics of her emotional and sexual functioning. As a result, she is likely to be attracted by stormy and complicated relationships.
Mental and Intellect:
Lilia Buckingham is somewhat plodding but realistic and pragmatic. Because Lilia Buckingham is chiefly preoccupied with the practical aspects of things, Lilia Buckingham is especially apt to develop more efficient production concepts. Although Lilia Buckingham’s good judgment and common sense provide Lilia Buckingham with an excellent ability to handle the tangible world (Lilia Buckingham is certainly clever, and can quickly assess the tangible value of things), Lilia Buckingham’s thought processes might be relatively impervious to abstract concepts and spiritual awakenings.
Lilia Buckingham tries to shun subjectivity and be as objective as possible. Her thoughts are usually structured, and her reasoning, based on objective facts or experience, usually relates to practical goals.
Lilia Buckingham sometimes makes mistakes in judgment, and her understanding of things is not always in tune with social realities or prevailing opinion. Lilia’s judgments tend to be hasty; her decisions are reckless. Moreover, Lilia tends to overestimate her abilities and usually aim higher than might be realistic. Once an enterprise or project is underway, Lilia may try to avoid obstacles by dodging certain duties.
Because Lilia’s vision of the world differs somewhat from social realities, Lilia should be extremely careful and scrupulous in regard to legal matters, in order to avoid any complications of that type. Lilia is sometimes slightly dishonest in her relations; Lilia may break promises or attempt to duck responsibility.
However, Lilia should realize that such conduct toward other people is also a form of unconscious self-loathing. If Lilia continues to behave in such a way, Lilia is exposing herself to the same lack of sincerity from her partners.