If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. This may include your preference for illusion, your hypersensitivity, your emotionalism, your lack of self-confidence, and your guilt.
João Lourenço may experience discord in relationships. Although he is friendly and outgoing and commits himself to friendships and partnerships, he often finds it difficult to balance his own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, he should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If he succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship he and his partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.
João Lourenço sometimes finds it difficult to stabilize his life and steer a steady course. He is proud of his intellectual abilities and even tends to overestimate them in a search for recognition and admiration. Yet, at other times, he might seem to scoff at other people’s opinions. At times, he tends to be overwrought and high-strung. He might want to schedule frequent rest periods for himself.
João Lourenço’s emotions are fluctuating and unstable. Although he has the ability to detach himself from his emotions to analyze and observe them, this tendency sometimes prevents him from truly engaging himself in emotional terms and may act as a defense against any emotional impact. This is the reason why he subjects all his feelings to an intellectual interpretation rather than yielding to them. It is also the reason why he might falter, hesitate, contradict himself and seem to say both yes and no when he has an opportunity to commit himself emotionally. He should make a conscious effort to overcome this unconscious conditioning which may be related to his childhood. He must first learn to observe and assimilate other people’s feelings instead of rejecting them. This exercise will teach him to understand his own reactions and affects better.