If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These are your continual need for security, tendency to escape into fantasy, hunger for approval, longing for the past, and fear of the future. To overcome these weaknesses, you must become aware of them and start to work on overcoming them.
You sometimes sense a conflict between your desire for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are deeply committed to both ideas and do not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on you. Sometimes it feels as though you will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy you if you have neglected your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you are only trying to fool yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.
Chell Marie Williams may experience discord in relationships. Although she is friendly and outgoing and commits herself to friendships and partnerships, she often finds it difficult to balance her own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, she should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If she succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship she and her partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.
Chell Marie Williams has a variety of talents, but it can be difficult for her to concentrate on a single center of interest. She is ruled by her nervousness and suggestibility, and might struggle to use her adaptive abilities to their full advantage. To be truly effective, she needs to learn to control her jittery mind; otherwise, she may drain her nervous system of energy. If she encounters respiratory problems, like asthma, it will be a signal that the need to change is urgent.
Chell Marie Williams’s mind tends to soar from one ideal or theory to the next without ever adopting any one approach. Because she rarely takes the trouble to steady her vision and deepen it, or to stick to an activity after it becomes tiresome, she is often disappointed. Her lack of constancy and her inability to commit herself to any long-term effort, as well as her tendency to evade responsibility, could be obstacles to her life in the real world.
Chell Marie Williams is curious but undiscriminating. She is high-strung and fluctuating; she sometimes has trouble disciplining her mind. Because she finds change and variety especially stimulating and pleasant, she may be a bit fickle as a partner in a relationship or friendship. Many of her conflicts with other people are due to her instability and lack of self-control. If she succeeds in mastering and channeling her considerable mental energy, she could be extremely effective in such fields as communications and teaching.
Chell Marie Williams sometimes sets unrealistic goals for herself and tends to be impractical. These tendencies are particularly evident when it comes to her emotional relationships. In the beginning, she will idealize the potential partner, one who will put her on a pedestal, but then she may try to dodge commitment. In other life pursuits, she tends to rush into poorly thought-out activities. If she does not alter these tendencies, life will step in to make her slow down and induce her to organize herself with more patience and forethought.
Chell Marie Williams may find herself feeling frustration and insecurity in her relations with other people, or in matters related to communication, until she finds the right direction for herself. She is fairly skeptical and sometimes overly rational, so she does not always trust in the power of her own imagination and emotions, and she is even more wary of other people’s imagination and emotions. Her approach is sometimes hindered by pessimism, and people may find her cynical. She would do well to learn to be more generous with herself in her intimate and social relationships instead of immediately snuffing out other people’s spontaneous expressions of hope and goodwill.
To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.