Cheb Mami seems passive and more or less resigned to her fate, including her insecurity. Actually, she is fairly introverted and withdrawn, trying to make sense out of her inner confusion and fathom her inner depths.
You have a father complex, and as a result, some trouble finding your identity. Perhaps your father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during your childhood, which deprived you of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because you might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, you were forced to protect yourself against negative influences and find your own system in order to grow and feel secure. Although this system was quite useful to you as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with your evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber your mind or inhibit your developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for you to assert yourself, and you tend to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because your authoritarian urges are mainly directed at yourself rather than others, you sometimes feel guilty about your behavior. You judge yourself severely, and sometimes punishes yourself by setting difficult tasks for yourself. Gradually, you should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.
The personality and behavior of someone with a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling their psyche is liable to be disrupted. This occurs because their sensitivity is in conflict with their determination, attitude, and performance. Moodiness, fluctuation, and uncertainty are common. Usually, they have the feeling that they have to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging their yearnings and fulfilling their ambitions. However, their unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of their conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage their plans. In relationships, the images they build up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, also grates on their nerves.
Cheb Mami has a taste for luxury and magnificence, for a dazzling social life and a distinguished career. When things are going well for her, she tends to think of herself as the center of the universe, an attitude which those close to her do not always appreciate. Although she is quite likely to succeed in her ambition to become wealthy and popular and lead a remarkable life in the outer world, her lack of moderation and overweening self-confidence expose her to some danger. Her exaggerated optimism could create difficulties by causing her to make errors in judgment.
Cheb Mami enjoys sharing and has a constant need for contact with other people. She tends to be free and uninhibited in her relations with other people, rarely allowing herself to be influenced by convention or prevailing opinion; she associates with whomever she pleases. This attitude makes her life refreshing and exciting, and she is never bored. In career terms, she is quite gifted for any field related to communication, where her intellectual singularity and lively wit would make her an amazing hit. She would also be likely to succeed in any activity where the work required a multidisciplinary approach: teaching, advertising, politics, etc.
Cheb Mami has a profound and fertile inner life and a prolific imagination, but her energy resources are not always sufficient to follow through on and accomplish her multitude of dreams. She tends to live in osmosis with her environment, and effort and action take a heavy toll on her. Usually, she understands phenomena and events intuitively, without really making any effort; so she is not in the habit of disciplining or shaping her thought processes. Like her thoughts, her personality is rather amorphous and disorganized. As a result of this lack of structure, she may have some trouble asserting her individuality and making some personal contribution to society through her career. Her tendency to shut out reality and dream impossible dreams, like her refusal of responsibility and duty, may be a source of some difficulty for her.
Cheb Mami generally tends to be motivated by activities which apply to social needs. She tends to give the best of herself in difficult situations which require crucial choices. Her ability to concentrate and her gift for solving problems by deductive reasoning are her chief resources in crisis situations or at turning points in her life.
Lively and expressive, Cheb Mami has a personality which is sometimes agitated but straightforward. Unconscious feelings of insecurity compel her to act and sometimes to seek the admiration of others. As a result, she is unable to bear idleness and routine, and she is in search of perpetual excitement. Her reactions to others are highly individual and depend on the mood she is in at any given moment. A person of decision, a businessperson or an athlete, she often personifies boldness and impetuosity. Her love life is liable to be fiery, as it obeys the imperatives of her desire for freedom and independence, and her need for change.
Cheb Mami enjoys captivating people with the elegance and ease of her expression. She is a witty and engaging flirt, an avid player of the game of love. As a result, the history of her affections is liable to be episodic, a long series of chapters about conquests or fleeting love affairs. She may carry on some love relationships by writing letters.
Cheb Mami’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is expressed in a direct and fairly impulsive way. She enjoys reaching out to other people and making discoveries. An eternal teenager with her gaze riveted on the future, she is imbued with an eminently subjective and personal idealism.
As a result of this conflict between the conscious, active, masculine principle of your psyche and the unconscious, passive, feminine principle, you are continually subject to nervous tension, which wears you out and exhausts you. Your mind and body are always feverishly active. You always tend to do too much, to become obsessed with insignificant details, or to panic when faced with the unexpected. You are likely to marry a partner who’s younger than you, either chronologically or in terms of their sense of duty. But perhaps your second marriage will be more reasonable and satisfying.
Cheb Mami indulges in puppy love romances or allows the circumstances to decide what she wants. Her personality is sometimes emotional and ambivalent. She should be careful not to rush into marriage, for she may soon long for the single life again if she hasn’t chosen a partner who’s the best fit.
You are a passionate and ardent person, and your relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, you are often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, your love life may be subject to some instability. You are generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate you. Your greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although you merge your ego entirely into the couple, you are likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If your partner charms and captivates you long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with you; otherwise, you are likely to yield to your need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for you.
Midlife may be a turning point for you from this point of view. Your contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. Your behavior enables you to remain aloof, to commit yourself only halfway without consciously admitting it to yourself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when you lose interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps you from forming stable relationships. Indeed, you are tormented by the struggle between your undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, your romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by your conviction that your partner has become an obstacle to your individual progress. Because you think of love as a restraint, you may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests.
As an ascetic, you will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, you are also likely to meet “the one” who inspires you to initiate a change in your behavior.
You have a romantic imagination, soaring with idealism, dreams, and poetry. You are emotive and hypersensitive, making you especially vulnerable emotionally, since you are sometimes overwhelmed by your feelings and affects. Although you seek an ideal soulmate, a partner with whom you could maintain blissful, smooth relations, you are sometimes met with disillusionment. Because your rather excessive sensitivity and your need to merge with the other are deep and powerful enough, they can submerge your judgment and discernment, so you sometimes form extremely intense bonds too quickly with individuals who are not appropriate partners in many ways. When you meet someone, you fall under the enchantment of your dream of ideal love and cannot keep yourself from delighting in a reverie of future romance, placing the other on a pedestal. Early on in the relationship, you yield to another of your characteristic urges and lose yourself in the individual who is so dear to you, melding with them, only to awaken one morning and find yourself as if in the arms of a stranger, greatly astounded and disappointed. Actually, your psyche is constructed in such a way as to make your sensitivity a function of the environment, in many cases; it follows the flow of momentary emotions and impressions. Before you take on any major commitments, you should make a conscious effort to evaluate the relationship realistically, and see whether the person really reciprocates your intense love, for you may merely be in love with the mirage of an ideal partner. Your tendency to believe in your illusions may mark you as an easy prey for people with bad intentions. It would be a good idea for you to find a different object for your affections, or a form of sublimation, because you tend to be so disappointed by your great emotional investments. The delicacy and subtlety of your imagination procure artistic refinement for you, and you love the arts, music, and literature, which could all be good sources of emotional involvement and fulfillment. Because your sensitivity also makes it easy for you to empathize with the psychological or social difficulties your peers are struggling with, you might also find it rewarding to commit yourself to social work.
You are a complex individual, full of contradictions. Because you sometimes feel vulnerable emotionally, you try to control not only your own feelings and urges, but may also strive to manipulate those of your partners. You aspire to a profound and enduring spiritual unity, but at the same time, the idea of abandoning yourself and yielding to the other terrifies you. This anguish may be a source of rather extreme behavior patterns and a somewhat self-focused attitude which could damage the relationship. Because you are guarded and somewhat secretive, you tend to be suspicious and are especially uneasy about spontaneous intimacy, although you are fascinated by sexuality. Within the privacy of the couple, you will not express your feelings unless you are subject to some tension. Life may be peppered with frequent crises and feuds, arguments and spats which usually act as erotic provocation. This derivation of eroticism from anxiety tends to be one of the fundamental characteristics of your emotional and sexual functioning. As a result, you are likely to be attracted by stormy and complicated relationships.
Cheb Mami is powerfully ruled by her determination and vital needs. Her intellectual abilities come to the forefront when her purpose is to communicate her ideal and plot her action or strategy. She can be both logical and astute, and have gifts for theorizing but may sometimes lack perspective.
Cheb Mami does not express her thoughts and ideas smoothly or easily. She tends to be subjective, seeking to know herself better through a process of introversion.