If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. Bryant Terry
You sometimes sense a conflict between your desire for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are deeply committed to both ideas and do not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on you. Sometimes it feels as though you will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy you if you have neglected your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you are only trying to fool yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.
Bryant Terry may experience discord in relationships. Although he is friendly and outgoing and committed himself to friendships and partnerships, he often finds it difficult to balance his own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, he should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If he succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship he and his partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.
You may become aware of a need to change your direction in life. This turning point in your attitude may occur as you reach the age of 30. In the first part of your life, you will have undergone a period of evolution and ripening, which is a vital part of the process of change characterized by a fairly constant inner awareness and reexamination of your inner feeling of insecurity. To prepare yourself for the influx of new energy and free yourself from negative attitudes, you must confront as consciously as possible the challenges related to your lack of inner structure or your need for an identity. This psychological work could lead to a total reorganization of your life under the best possible conditions.