Brian Blade is aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution. He needs to become aware of them and work on fixing them so that he can grow and improve as a person.
Brian Blade understands that every relationship has a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If he and his partners can define these things through discussion and communication, many conflicts will be avoided.
Brian Blade is rather obstinate, stubborn, and impervious to outside influences. Although his determination is an asset in bringing plans and projects to completion, it may also arouse bitter hostility against him. To fit in best, consider working on his flexibility and diplomacy.
To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to your life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy your life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It's a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of your life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.