Bobby Miller needs others in order to structure himself. He intuitively senses this need and seeks a balance between his individual ambitions and need to give to others and be loved and recognized in return, although it sometimes eludes him. Marriage and friendship could be realms to which he is especially devoted, but they may also prove to be a source of conflict and disillusion.
Bobby Miller has a paternal complex. Because he lacked a father figure, he had to find his own system to grow and feel secure. This system was useful to him as a child, but it has settled in to a degree that it interferes with his evolution. Bobby has psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful, but now encumber his mind. As a result, it is difficult for him to assert himself in some situations, and he tends to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because his authoritarian urges are mainly directed at himself, he sometimes feels guilty about his behavior. He judges himself severely and sometimes punishes himself by setting difficult tasks for himself. Gradually, he should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.
Bobby Miller may be subject to mood swings, going from phases of frenzy combined with a feeling of omnipotence and exaltation to phases of apathy and inertia. During your “highs,” your behavior is vigorous and dynamic, but it is also likely to be somewhat excessive. These periods tend to be interspersed with “lows,” phases of sluggishness and inhibition, which compensate for your immense need to assert yourself as an individual.
How can Bobby Miller find a way out of this vicious cycle which uses up so much of his energy? He would have to understand that the source of his attitudes and behavior is an unconscious desire for power. He should meditate upon power, skills, mastery, challenge, desire, and need, his brothers (or brother substitutes, such as friends, cousins, or classmates) – who are key figures – and his adversaries. This should enlighten him. After he has a clear awareness of his career ambitions and profound desires, he will have plenty of energy to accomplish them.
Bobby Miller struggled to fit in with society’s conventions. The masks most people wear are difficult for him to put on, and it is hard for him to act out the roles expected of him as a normal member of the community. The usual social values and rewards, like money, respect, and prestige, only mildly interest him. His refusal or inability to play the social game may make it hard for him to find a job, which may have negative consequences on his financial and legal status. Reluctant and unwilling to adapt to the demands of social life, Bobby sometimes unwittingly makes mistakes when a new project is in the planning stages. For example, he may leave gaps in a job application, botch up an interview with a prospective employer, or make a big mistake when bidding for a contract. But his financial difficulties may clear up when his emotional ones do.
Bobby Miller is fairly strong-willed, and he is mindful of going about his purposes with maximum efficiency. When he relates to other people, he sometimes has trouble expressing his emotions, but he does have a lively sensitivity and is capable of lasting passion. As he grows older, he is quite likely to come into his own and acquire great intellectual and spiritual wisdom. His honesty, integrity, and sense of duty will win him recognition and appreciation. Passing time will be a very important factor in his destiny, and his greatest accomplishments will guarantee him stability and prosperity. Although he is not especially enterprising, he will move into a high career position as soon as he feels sure of his abilities.
Due to Bobby Miller’s need for security, he tends to limit the scope of his activities, and sometimes must struggle to muster the energy to face unfamiliar situations. He is more or less passive and has a strong urge to take refuge in the past.
You are a very sensitive person who lives in osmosis with your surroundings. You are very individualistic, and your feelings are constantly being washed over you. It can be difficult for you to communicate your feelings to other people or to engage in any structured, analytical thought. This may be because you didn’t understand your teachers when you were a child. They were disciplining you, and you withdrew into yourself in self-defense. This is when you constructed your rich inner life and cut many of your ties to the outside. Because you enjoyed indulging in your inner life, it was difficult for you to acquire an objective vision of reality. As a result, you tend to create imaginary problems for yourself, regardless of the objective facts outside. Although your imagination is a source of inspiration and intuition, your fluid inner structure and organization can sometimes make it difficult for you to grasp the essence of your dreams and share them with other people. You are not at all combative, and this can hinder your efforts to fit into society and assert yourself productively. You are likely to prefer fantasy to reality, but your refusal to abandon your unattainable dreams is a psychological trap you have fallen into without realizing it. You must understand that by running away from your obligations and commitments, you only increase the feelings of guilt and incompetence which made reality so distasteful in the first place. Once you free yourself from this pernicious process, you have a great deal of potential for fulfilling yourself in the outer world, either by devoting yourself to some sort of social work or by cultivating your considerable artistic talents.
Bobby Miller generally tends to be motivated by activities which apply to social needs. He tends to give the best of himself in difficult situations which require crucial choices. His ability to concentrate and his gift for solving problems by deductive reasoning are his chief resources in crisis situations or at turning points in his life.
Bobby Miller enjoys physical and mental freedom. His youth and home may have been of the rootless, wandering type, which has given him a taste for movement and independence. He needs to be aware that his life has a purpose and hunt for it in various belief systems, both traditional and new age. In fact, Bobby has an unmistakable gift for philosophy. The faraway appeals to him, and travel is likely to be an important aspect of his life.
Bobby Miller’s intellect is lively, agile, and sensitive. However, he does not always avail himself of it and may be confused or irrational in some situations. Although he enjoys playing with words, ideas, and concepts, his thought sometimes lacks discipline and structure. He is fairly preoccupied with details and may tend to waste his nervous and mental energy in futile verbal outpourings. Moreover, his feelings sometimes blur his objective vision of phenomena and people, which may cause him to make errors in judgment.
Bobby Miller has a sensitive and affectionate nature. He seeks tenderness and gentleness more than passion. His relationships with others are smooth and pleasant, and he has a natural sense of tact and social grace.
Bobby Miller resents having to impose limitations on himself, and he may sometimes try to dodge obligations and commitments. The obstacles and hindrances reality places on his path to personal and social development tend to depress him. He sometimes broods bitterly about the frustrations to his self-fulfillment and might have a fairly pessimistic vision of society and its possibilities.
You are emotional and tend to react suddenly and excessively as soon as your sensitivity is touched. Although you feel that your independence, freedom, and self-sufficiency are fundamental values, you are sometimes frustrated by your need to rely on your family or friends. Moreover, you do not always grant the freedom of other people the same respect as your own. Likewise, you are sometimes angered by expressions of maternal tenderness, as if you feared that it would doom you to eternal dependency. Your ambivalent behavior, full of jagged edges, may be traced back to the relationship you had with your mother or a mother figure. Although you were dependent on them, they may have rejected you. Now this attitude is extended to any situation in which your sensitivity comes into play and emotional bonds are liable to form. To ward off your feelings of dependency, you tend to become destructive. Based on denial, your reactions are sometimes fierce, impulsive, and excessive, erratic, or contradictory.
Bobby Miller has fairly lofty amorous aspirations. The soulmate he imagines for himself is brilliant and dazzling with an array of talents and beauty. However, the gap between his splendid ideal and reality is sometimes wide. He should be careful not to confuse his romantic ideal with reality and become aware that his tendency to project may be a way of fleeing from himself.
Bobby Miller’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of his emotional urges and somewhat wary of his feelings, he tries to rid himself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.
According to the aforegoing, it appears that Bobby Miller pulls people in different directions at once. His need for liberty conflicts with a hunger for security and affection; his natural selfishness battles his altruism. As a result, his mood may be somewhat whimsical and wayward; his youth was almost certainly wayward. Once he settles down, he will develop a great love for his family, especially for children, if he chooses to have them. He will be tolerant and easygoing. To thrive, he needs to feel like he can maintain his free-spiritedness.
Bobby Miller has a taste for a lively social life full of encounters with new people. He thrives on baroque adventures and seeks out partners who will add to his prestige or facilitate his success. He is quite adept at charming people who outclass him socially and may help him climb the social ladder.
Bobby Miller has a lively wit that gives him great agility and scope and a broad field of consciousness which enlivens his curiosity and makes him love variety and change. His mind is alert and his speech is full of verve, humor, and sometimes impudence. These abilities are great resources in communication, discussion, and debate. Bobby is a storehouse of information and ideas of every kind and delights in manipulating words and concepts, discovering new things, and sharpening his memory for trivial facts. This mental agitation could sometimes make him scattered, however, or lacking in coherence and discipline.
Bobby Miller expresses his thoughts and ideas in direct, spontaneous outbursts. He is fairly introverted and eager to discover and understand the inner world. An idealist, he looks forward to a bright future but is sometimes subjective and reckless.