Bobby McCray needs others in order to structure himself. He intuitively senses this need and seeks a balance between his individual ambitions and need to give to others and be loved and recognized in return, although it sometimes eludes him. Marriage and friendship could be realms to which he is especially devoted, but they may also prove to be a source of conflict and disillusion.
Bobby McCray’s personality and behavior are liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling his psyche. Because his sensitivity is in conflict with his determination, his attitude and performance may be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, he has the feeling he has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging his yearnings and fulfilling his ambitions. His unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of his conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage his plans. In his relationships, the images he builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, also grates on his nerves. He finds it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Bobby McCray has a profound and fertile inner life and a prolific imagination, but his energy resources are not always sufficient to follow through on and accomplish his myriad of dreams. He tends to live in osmosis with his environment, and effort and action take a heavy toll on him. Usually, he understands phenomena and events intuitively, without really making any effort; so he is not in the habit of disciplining or shaping his thought processes. Like his thoughts, his personality is rather amorphous and disorganized. As a result of this lack of structure, he may have some trouble asserting his individuality and making some personal contribution to society through his career. His tendency to shut out reality and dream impossible dreams, like his refusal of responsibility and duty, may be a source of some difficulty for him.
Bobby McCray is winning and attractive. He has an appetite for intense emotional experiences, especially in terms of his relationships. Enjoying the power of his personal appeal, he easily controls his emotions and only rarely reveals the true depth of his feelings. Because his instincts take precedence over his sensitivity, he is capable of becoming jealous, possessive, and even rather harsh, without meaning to. More of a flirt than a voluptuary, he is attentive to desire. As a result, his love life will sometimes be casual and complicated.
You are emotional and react quickly when your sensitivity is touched. Although you value independence, freedom, and self-sufficiency, sometimes you are frustrated by your need to rely on your family or friends. You also do not always grant the freedom of others the same respect you give to yourself. Additionally, you can be angered by expressions of maternal tenderness, as if you feared it would doom you to a life of dependency. Your ambivalent behavior, full of jagged edges, may be traced back to the relationship you had with your mother or a mother figure. Although you were dependent on them, they may have rejected you. Now this attitude is extended to any situation in which your sensitivity comes into play and emotional bonds are likely to form. To avoid being dependent, you tend to become destructive. Based on denial, your reactions are sometimes fierce, impulsive, and excessive, erratic, or contradictory.
In matters of the heart, Bobby McCray is fairly shy, reserved, and discreet. Even in intimacy, he remains modest and does not always readily express his feelings. He’s sensitive and giving, wishing to be of service to those he loves. He would do well to trust that he deserves to be made as happy as he makes his partners.
Bobby McCray’s birth chart indicates that he has an emotional function that is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. distrustful of his emotional urges and somewhat wary of his feelings, he tries to rid himself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.
Bobby McCray seems more likely to become accomplished than to experience emotional happiness. He is very ambitious and liable to sacrifice a pleasant lover to a socially useful and prominent person. In this case, his partner may turn out to be more preoccupied with their own glory than with him. At that point, he may work out his frustrations and emotional misadventures by surpassing their success with his own.
Bobby McCray is a shy and unassuming person by nature. He may be ill at ease when it comes to sexual and emotional matters, and may decide to channel his emotions into charitable work, or he may meet a tender and affectionate partner and delight in pampering and fussing over them for the rest of his life.
Bobby McCray has a romantic imagination, soaring with idealism, dreams, and poetry. He is emotive and hypersensitive, making him especially vulnerable emotionally, since he is sometimes overwhelmed by his feelings and affects. Although he seeks an ideal soulmate, a partner with whom he could maintain blissful, smooth relations, he is sometimes met with disillusionment. Because his rather excessive sensitivity and his need to merge with the other are deep and powerful enough, they can submerge his judgment and discernment, so he sometimes form extremely intense bonds too quickly with individuals who are not appropriate partners in many ways. When he meets someone, he falls under the enchantment of his dream of ideal love and cannot keep himself from delighting in a reverie of future romance, placing the other on a pedestal. Early on in the relationship, he yields to another of his characteristic urges and loses himself in the individual who is so dear to him, melding with them, only to awaken one morning and find himself as if in the arms of a stranger, greatly astounded and disappointed. Actually, his psyche is constructed in such a way as to make his sensitivity a function of the environment, in many cases; it follows the flow of momentary emotions and impressions. Before he takes on any major commitments, he should make a conscious effort to evaluate the relationship realistically, and see whether the person really reciprocates his intense love, for he may merely be in love with the mirage of an ideal partner. His tendency to believe in his illusions may mark him as an easy prey for people with bad intentions. It would be a good idea for him to find a different object for his affections, or a form of sublimation, because he tends to be so disappointed by his great emotional investments. The delicacy and subtlety of his imagination procure artistic refinement for him, and he loves the arts, music, and literature, which could all be good sources of emotional involvement and fulfillment. Because his sensitivity also makes it easy for him to empathize with the psychological or social difficulties his peers are struggling with, he might also find it rewarding to commit himself to social work.
Bobby McCray was powerfully ruled by his determination and vital needs. His intellectual abilities came to the forefront when he communicated his ideal and plotted his action or strategy. He could be both logical and astute, and had gifts for theorizing but may sometimes lack perspective.