Bobby Despotovski has consciousness and the ideal of self.
Bobby Despotovski is searching for stability; he wants to find a firm, unchanging structure for his life. But his efforts to achieve this ideal are often vain, because unconsciously, he is also inhabited by the opposite desire. Every time he reaches what he believes to be a good balance, he realizes he wants something entirely different. He would do well to become aware that the concepts of stability and balance are difficult to apply to life. By definition, life is movement, change, and perpetual instability.
Bobby has a personality and behavior liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling his psyche. Because his sensitivity is in conflict with his determination, his attitude and performance may be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, he has the feeling he has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging his yearnings and fulfilling his ambitions. His unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of his conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage his plans. In his relationships, the images he builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, also grates on his nerves. He finds it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Bobby has an immense need to assert his individuality. His attitudes and actions are actually motivated by an unconscious desire for power, which incites him to rush into action despite the frequent threat of risk and danger. Because he has very little control over his energy and impulses, he sometimes injures himself bodily or starts arguments without really having meant to do so. He has a short temper and would do well to learn to control his recklessness, which exposes him to a great deal of unnecessary conflict and adversity. He is also likely to start projects which are not really appropriate to him, only to be forced to quit soon after. Before he makes any important decision, he must learn to stop and ask himself if what he is about to do is really positive for him.
Bobby has a great potential for creative, constructive accomplishments; however, it is sometimes difficult for him to gain access to this part of himself. He is confident in himself and life but may tend to be nonchalant. He sometimes needs a little stimulation to get himself rolling and take some initiative. His optimism and inner certainty do not always drive him to give his utmost efforts to achieve a goal. The communications skills he possesses are an advantage as well as a handicap. He makes use of his theatrical gifts, convincing eloquence, and ability to listen. The best careers for him would be teaching, communications, philosophy, the legal profession, theater, and public relations.
Bobby feels adaptation and sensitivity are two important components of his playing style. He is able to quickly adjust to different playing conditions and often gets the most out of his opponents by exploiting their weaknesses.
Bobby Despotovski has a personality which is sometimes agitated but straightforward. Unconscious feelings of insecurity compel him to act and sometimes to seek the admiration of others. As a result, he is unable to bear idleness and routine, and he is in search of perpetual excitement. His reactions to others are highly individual and depend on the mood he is in at any given moment. A person of decision, a businessperson or an athlete, he often personifies boldness and impetuosity. His love life is liable to be fiery, as it obeys the imperatives of his desire for freedom and independence, and his need for change.
Bobby has a lively and curious intelligence. The very opposite of empty rhetoric and studiousness, he is agile and adaptable and can not only analyze difficult situations objectively but also demonstrate a profound comprehension when faced with a psychological problem.
Bobby Despotovski maintains strong ties with his past, and it often seems difficult for him to open his heart to new people. His love affairs might exist on the surface level, because his lust and sensual desire rarely turn into a need to understand, protect, and care for the other. Moreover, it is difficult for him to meet partners who combine the ideals of the tender parent and the great lover.
Bobby Despotovski has an emotional nature and tends to react suddenly and excessively as soon as his sensitivity is touched. Although he feels that his independence, freedom, and self-sufficiency are fundamental values, he is sometimes frustrated by his need to rely on his family or friends. Moreover, he does not always grant the freedom of other people the same respect as his own. Likewise, he is sometimes angered by expressions of maternal tenderness, as if he feared that it would doom him to eternal dependency. His ambivalent behavior, full of jagged edges, may be traced back to the relationship he had with his mother or a mother figure. Although he was dependent on them, they may have rejected him. Now this attitude is extended to any situation in which his sensitivity comes into play and emotional bonds are liable to form. To ward off his feelings of dependency, he sometimes tends to become destructive. Based on denial, his reactions might be fierce, impulsive, excessive, erratic, or contradictory.
Bobby has a sensitivity and irrepressible imagination that sometimes causes him trouble distinguishing dreams from reality. Although his imagination can be an abundant source of inspiration for creative or spiritual evolution, it tends to be less helpful and positive in matters that concern earning a decent living out in the real world. In a relationship, he is extremely romantic and does not always see others the way they really are. He has elegant tastes and art and beauty are one of his chief pleasures in life.
Bobby Despotovski loves and is sensual.
Bobby has a romantic nature and is seeking a soulmate. The world of his emotions is warm and inviting, the expression of true kindness. Tenderness, grace, and mildness rule his sensitivity, which is aroused by contact with nature and thrills to the idea of a secure, stable home.
Bobby Despotovski's birth chart indicates an emotional function which is expressed in a direct and fairly impulsive way. He enjoys reaching out to other people and making discoveries. An eternal teenager with his gaze riveted on the future, he is imbued with an eminently subjective and personal idealism.
Bobby Despotovski is as a result of this conflict between the conscious, active, masculine principle of his psyche and the unconscious, passive, feminine principle, constantly subject to nervous tension, which wears him out and exhausts him. His mind and body are always feverishly active. He always tends to do too much, to become obsessed with insignificant details, or to panic when faced with the unexpected. He is likely to marry a partner who’s younger than he, either chronologically or in terms of their sense of duty. But perhaps his second marriage will be more reasonable and satisfying.
Bobby Despotovski often confuses his dreams with reality, and as a result, he may find himself in quite a predicament. He is attracted to dramatic love affairs but then longs for something more soothing and tender. The romantic approach also tempts him, although he soon tires of its conformity.
The naive young-at-heart type is not necessarily the ideal choice, nor is the rebellious, edgy lover you can't tame. Once Bobby settles down, however, his satisfaction with his family will be all the greater for the fact it was hard-won.
Bobby has an ardent and amorous character, and his relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, he is often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, his love life may be subject to some instability. He is generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate him. His greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although he merges his ego entirely into the couple, he is likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If his partner charms and captivates him long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with him; otherwise, he is likely to yield to his need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for him.
Midlife may be a turning point for him from this point of view. His contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. His behavior enables him to remain aloof, to commit himself only halfway without consciously admitting it to himself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when he loses interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps him from forming stable relationships.
Indeed, he is tormented by the struggle between his undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, his romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by his conviction that his partner has become an obstacle to his individual progress. Because he thinks of love as a restraint, he may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, he will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, he is also likely to meet “the one” who inspires him to initiate a change in his behavior.
Bobby Despotovski has a mental and intellect that is very sharp. He is able to think on his feet and come up with solutions to problems quickly.
Bobby Despotovski is powerfully ruled by his determination and vital needs. His intellectual abilities come to the forefront when his purpose is to communicate his ideal and plot his action or strategy. He can be both logical and astute and have gifts for theorizing but may sometimes lack perspective.